Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

The majority of men who decide to get in shape and beef up their muscles a bit fail because they make the on/off mistake. Most people who try to learn a second language usually fail to learn it as well as they’d originally planned to because they make the on/off mistake. And most men who try to systematically apply attraction and seduction techniques to their interactions with women in the hope of dating them fail because, you guessed it, they make the on/off mistake. So, after all that, what the hell is it?

The on/off mistake is when a person wants to achieve something, so they commit themselves in some way to achieving it, but then they STOP trying for some reason. They don’t just try a little less hard…they actually stop. So, a guy works out twice a week for a month, then looks in the mirror, gets disheartened at the lack of results and so stops working out. A person starts listening to audio books to learn a new language, sticks at it for 2 weeks, then feels they can barely remember anything they’ve learned, so stops learning. And a guy starts applying some techniques he’s learned for building sexual chemistry between him and the woman, he does it a few times for a week or so, then he slips back into his old ways: he stops trying. All of these people start in the OFF mode, then they start trying to do whatever it is they want to succeed in doing and go into ON mode, then they stop for some reason and slip back to OFF mode. It’s a binary situation—there’s very little middle ground. A guy might work out religiously for two months, then slowly work out less and less frequently for a couple of weeks before stopping entirely (and thereby going back to OFF mode), but it’s pretty safe to say that, as with everyone else, we went from ON to OFF. Simple as that.

So, let’s now focus only on you and your goal of attracting and beginning to date women.

Even before you started to learn about the real science behind conscious attraction and seduction, you probably switched between ON and OFF when it came to trying to make something happen with women. For example, a lot of guys won’t really think too much about the fact that they’re single for a while, then one night when they’re out with friends or something, they’ll suddenly go into ON mode and get the idea in the their head that they need to make something happen with a woman. So, they’ll try to achieve that. They’ll chat to a woman and attempt to flirt with her. Maybe it goes well or maybe it doesn’t. Either way, it ends without any numbers swapped or kisses given and the guy wakes up the next day in OFF mode again.

This is the kind of scenario you need to avoid being in yourself. You don’t want to be switching back and forth between not trying to make something happen with women (being in OFF mode) and making a conscious effort to create opportunities for something to happen (being in ON mode). For example, when you’re walking through the mall, you’re in OFF mode. You’re just going through the motions, doing what you need to do. You’re probably looking at girls as you pass them by, but that’s about it. You’re in OFF mode. But on a Saturday night, your ears are pricked up and you’re ready for action…ready to do some flirting if you get the chance. You’re in ON mode. You can’t live with this kind of duality. It isn’t the right way to handle the problem of navigating your way through the dating scene. Instead, you need to forget about ON and OFF and only concentrate on one thing:

You are a man who knows enough about what it takes for a man to attract a woman that he can be perpetually ready to flirt or not flirt depending on the situation he finds himself in. There is no ON or OFF, there is only yes or no. You either choose to drop in a teasing comment while talking to a woman or you don’t. You don’t go through a conversation with a woman by starting in OFF mode and ending in OFF mode. You start as yourself and you react in accordance with how you feel and how the girl is feeling. This way, you’ll never fall into the trap of failing to attract a girl because you ‘didn’t feel ready’ or ‘in the mood’ or that ‘thing’s weren’t right’. That’s the kind of stuff guys who are in OFF mode say, because they really aren’t ready or in the mood to flirt with a woman.

What mode are you in right now?

The answer, hopefully, is you aren’t in one. You’re just a fucking Zen master. You’re ready.

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If you have read the last blog post, then you’ll remember that ‘crossing the line’ was mentioned in it. In this post, we’re going to take a close look at what crossing the line means. First let’s define what the line is that we’re talking about.

When you talk to a woman who is about the right age ‘for you’ and who is single, there exists a line between you and her. One side of the line represents the normal mode and the other represents a sexually motivated mode. Here is an example of the normal side:

A guy meets a woman for the first time and they have a conversation. They talk about their jobs, TV, their friends, a holiday the girl is going on and which is their favourite cocktail. It’s a fun conversation and it ends when the girls’ friends say they are leaving to go somewhere else. The guy and girl smile at each other and say bye, it was nice to meet you.

Now here is an example of the sexually motivated mode:

A guy meets a woman for the first time and they talk for a while about different stuff. After about 10 minutes, the vibe between them is really sparking. There’s a lot of energy and they’re both having a fun time. The guy teases the girl by saying that the shoes she’s wearing make her look like a pixie. She says if she’s a pixie then he must be a troll. He says maybe, but in reality she’s the only one in the room who looks like a mythical creature. She laughs and punches him on the arm. He laughs and raises his glass. “To pixie footwear!” he says.

The difference between the two modes is clear. One involves flirting and teasing and sexually motivated behaviour and the other doesn’t. Crossing the line means going from normal mode to sexually motivated mode and although it doesn’t sound that difficult on paper, a massive amount of guys have problems with it in real life. It’s no doubt because crossing the line seems like a big risk to them. They’re already in a pretty good place, just because they’re talking to the woman in a normal, decent way, so they think why risk it, why rush things? Really all they’re doing is avoiding crossing the line, which means they’re delaying the progression of their relationship with the woman. But this isn’t a criticism of men. It IS hard to cross the line. It’s scary. It’s the unknown. You don’t know whether the woman will suddenly clam up when she realises ‘what you’re doing’ or thinking. Unfortunately, this a problem she’s going to have to deal with. You can’t carry it on your shoulders.

Here’s how to cross the line:

- First you need to get the conversation flowing smoothly and easily. There needs to be minimal tension. To do this, stay relaxed and let the topics and comments flow naturally. Don’t worry too much about exactly what you’re saying. Just be upbeat and speak clearly. Laugh easily and she will too. You MUST get her laughing before you move to the next step.

- Next, you need to develop some instant rapport by saying something positive that isn’t TOO flirtatious. For example, “Oh! That’s nice. You’ve got some fight in you…I like that.’

- Next, you need to step things up a little more. You’re about to cross the line. Drop one or two teasing comments. ‘Are you telling me lies? I just saw a little twinkle in your eye when you said that!’ You obviously say that playfully, not like a Nazi.

- If she reacts well, then you’re pretty much over the line. You’re in flirting territory. Good. Now you need to continue to build attraction by flirting a little more, but not too much. Tease a little before you flirt. This is flirting: “You’re really fiery…like you’ve got some Italian in you. That’s cool.” This is teasing: “Are you holding back some kind of dark secret. You did a little twitch when you said that…”

That’s a little lesson in crossing the line—something you must do, without fail, if you want to date a woman. Do it as soon as possible.

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Teasing a woman in the right way is an art form. It’s really no surprise that so many men fail miserably at it when they give it a go. In fact, some guys completely avoid flirting with and teasing a girl because they know that if they mess it up, she will immediately regard him as a failure or, at the very least, someone she doesn’t really want to spend much more time around. You’ve no doubt seen this happen in your lifetime. You may even have experienced it yourself. The man starts to flirt with the woman but he misses the target—his jokes and his attempts at teasing her are transparent and poorly executed. The woman straight away recognizes his heavy-handed attempts at flirting with her and because they’re crude and poorly calibrated, she gives him the ‘That’s nice” smile. She goes along with it. He says, “I bet you say that to all the boys, right?! Am I right?” And she nods and smiles, “Only the naughty ones!” Blah, blah. She knows what’s what.

So, yeah, some guys avoid teasing women just as a way of avoiding the above scenario. Whether you avoid teasing, are bad at it, or just need to sharpen up your ability to effectively tease a woman, it’s worth us going over a few pointers. In fact, let’s look at some great ways to tease a girl in exactly the right way.

#1: The Twinkle Tactic

To use this tease tactic all you need to do is insert it into your conversation with the woman. It doesn’t matter that much WHEN you insert it—you should just focus on saying what you say convincingly, with a slight air of busting her metaphorical balls. For example:
HER: “I go out probably three times a month, usually to clubs.”
YOU: “Really? So you’re a party girl, huh? I bet you get pretty crazy and have a wild time sometimes.”

HER (laughing): “No, no. I have a good time with my friends, but nothing too crazy.”

Now you insert the Twinkle Tactic.

YOU: “Hmm, I’m not sure I believe you. When you said that I saw a twinkle in your eyes. I swear. Do you wear contact lenses?”

HER (curious and smiling): “No, why?”

YOU: “Because there was a twinkle there. You’re a crazy party chick, I think.”

HER (laughing and smiling): “No way. I’m a good girl.”

Of course.

That’s the twinkle tactic. You doubt something she says and you say “I saw a twinkle in your eyes just then like you know something I don’t…or that you don’t want me to” or something along those lines. It’s pure teasing gold.

#2: The Twitch

This is another tease tactic that can be easily inserted into your conversation with a woman. For example:

YOU: “…it was great. You should have seen him, he was drenched in it. The only part of him that wasn’t coated white was his red face. Embarrassing as hell, but he loves telling people that story. For some reason he isn’t embarrassed NOW.”

HER: “Ha ha, that’s crazy. I would have hated that…so embarrassing. Thankfully I’ve never had that kind of bad luck really, not in front of so many people, anyway.”

YOU look at her with a sort of sideways, dubious look: “Are you sure? You just did a sort of facial twitch.

HER: “What? No way!”

YOU: “No, no. Not like that. It was really small, like you’re repressing a deep, dark secret or something.”

HER (giggling and smiling): “No, not at all! I didn’t twitch!”

YOU (busting her lady-balls):  “Yeah, you did. I was right here watching you. It was when you said not in front of SO MANY people. Did you have a private embarrassment? Or perhaps an embarrassment involving your priva….actually, let’s not go there. New subject!”

HER: “Hey, no! A new subject, sure, but I didn’t have any kind of embarrassment that I need to hide. You’re just being mean!”

As you’ve seen, both of these tactics can easily be inserted into your conversations, pretty much at any point. All you need to do is misinterpret something she says or wait for a point at which she could conceivably be hiding something or be embarrassed about something (although she clearly isn’t).

Try them—they’re good.

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