How To Make Women Laugh – 6 Ways To Use Humor To Make Women Fall For You

Posted on June 16, 2010 by Carl Cu

It’s no secret that women find humor sexy. Ask any woman what kind of man he’s looking for, and 9 out of 10 she’ll say she wants someone who can make her laugh. That’s because no woman wants to be with a man who is serious and stiff all the time. She wants someone who knows how to have a good time, and how to make her feel good about herself.

Being able to make women laugh is a sign of social adeptness in a man. A man who can tell a good story, or laugh at himself is a measure of strength and maturity. You will see that men who can tell a funny story well are the ones always surrounded by people.

Humor isn’t just about making someone laugh – it’s really about making someone feel good about themselves. This is why there’s such a thing as bad humor which happens when you end up being offensive. When you look at it this way, you don’t have to be good at telling jokes to make someone feel good.

A lot of men think they’re not particularly funny, or particularly good at telling jokes. But you see, humor, like anything else, is a learned skill. Of course, some men will have a natural talent for humor. If you are one of them, good for you. But for those who are average in the humor department, here are some tips to help you make women laugh:

  1. Smile. When you smile at someone, it’s nearly impossible for that person not to smile back. This is a great way to make women immediately feel at ease when with you.

  2. Build your repertoire. Just like a stand up comic, to be able to have an appropriate funny story to share in every occasion, you need to start building a repertoire of funny stories. Take note of jokes and stories that you think are funny.

  3. Funny true stories. It’s not just jokes and anecdotes that make good material. Funny things that happen to you, or remarking on situations that are funny to you are great ways to add a touch personality and truth to your humor.

  4. Laugh at your own jokes. When you recount a joke or a story, laugh freely. When you laugh, you invite other people to laugh with you.

  5. Learn how to salvage failed jokes. Prepare a comeback move for jokes or stories that didn’t quite make it. Something like… “And that’s why I opted to become a banker!”.

  6. Don’t ever tell jokes at the expense of other people. This is never in good taste. You risk offending your audience. And even if you don’t, you will be perceived as someone who talks ill of other people.
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How To Impress A Woman On Your First Date – 12 Things You Should Never Overlook

Posted on June 8, 2010 by Carl Cu

You’re on a date with a very attractive woman. Your goal: a night of fun and evenings of frolic in the very near future. But first, you need to go through the motions of a first date. You need to demonstrate, unequivocally, that you are the kind of man she will love to have around.

If you want to know how to impress a woman on your first date, there’s really just one thing you need to keep in mind. And that is to look the part. Just like when you’re applying for a job, dressing like you already got the job actually increases your chances of landing it.

It may seem superficial that to impress a woman on a first date, appearances take the top spot. But the reality is, we respond to appearances and make a lot of judgements about a person’s character based on it. And so learning how to impress a woman is actually a lesson in improving appearances.

You see, it’s no secret that women like men that other women want. It’s flattering to have something that other women envy. It makes you an alpha male – a man above every man, a man desired by women. If you are seeking to impress a woman, that’s the kind of attitude you need to express.

Need more specifics? Here’s a checklist of what you need to pay attention to:

  1. Your Hair. Is it styled well? Is the style current?

  2. Your Clothes. Do they fit well? Do they express your personality? Do they flatter you? Are they appropriate for where you are going?

  3. Your Shoes. Are they clean? Do they match your clothes?

  4. Your Skin. Do you have healthy skin? If you have an acne problem, be sure to take care of it beforehand.

  5. Facial Hair. For a first date, the clean look is always preferred. Of course, a well manicured stubble will also sit well with the ladies.

  6. Your Nails. Make sure your nails are trimmed and clean. Nothing turns women off more than dirty long fingernails (and toenails!).

  7. Your Body. Men who are fit are definitely more attractive to women. That should be an incentive for you to work out.

  8. Your Smell. Do you smell good or do you stink? Take a shower daily and before a date. Use an antiperspirant-deodorant and splash on some cologne.

  9. Your Teeth and Mouth. Observe good oral hygiene. Brush. Floss. Use breath mints.

  10. Your Posture. Good posture shows confidence. So don’t slouch and don’t be afraid to take up space.

  11. Your Voice. Your confidence also shows in your voice. Speak up with a well modulated voice.

  12. Your Brain. Yup, it matters what you know. Being able to keep a conversation is a sign of your social skills. And if you have a great sense of humor, that’s a big plus. Women are drawn to men who can make them laugh.
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How To Meet Women Online – 7 Online Dating Tips For Men

Posted on June 1, 2010 by Carl Cu

These days, a lot of things can be done online. Technology has made it much easier for people to explore their interests without having to actually go out. You can search for information online, buy things online, stay in touch with family and friends online… you can even meet women online.

Depending on your goals for meeting women online, there are a lot of sites that you can use as a platform for making new social connections. There are dating sites that you can join whether you are looking for a sexual encounter, an affair or something more serious. Some of these sites even have programs that will help you screen their database to find women that you are compatible with.

There are definitely a lot of advantages when you meet women online. For one, after putting up a nice profile picture, you don’t have to worry about how your look or present yourself just yet. It’s a fantastic opportunity to meet women even if you are shy or not that particularly great at conversation. In a chat, you’ll actually have time to think about and compose your answers.

Meeting women online is also cheaper than going out on a real date. This means you don’t spend money on a fancy dinner until you’re somewhat sure that you’re with a girl who likes you back.

In an online dating site, you get to choose who you talk to. You have access to the profiles of women and you choose who you like best.  When it’s time to finally meet up, the relationship that you have already established in the chat rooms of the dating site will make a face to face meeting much less daunting.

Now that you see what a great opportunity there is to meeting women online, the next question is how to do it. Here are some steps to make sure your online experience in meeting women goes down smoothly:

  1. Choose the right dating site. There are lots of dating sites these days, and each one caters to a different need or niche. Before signing up, research a bit into the sites to find out what kind of “relationships” these sites are promoting.

  2. Subscribe to a free trial. Once you’ve narrowed down your choices, sign up for a trial account. A trial account allows you to get a feel for the site and the choices that it offers. This will allow you to start mingling and see if the site really is what it’s propped up to be.

  3. Create your profile. This will be your ID. Make it attractive and make it look good. But as a form of precaution, be careful of the information you give out. You don’t want to put information like your real address or your phone number in public display. What you would like to put in would be interesting bits about yourself such as your hobbies.

  4. Initiate chats with as many prospects as possible. Of course, don’t do this all at once. The idea is to meet a lot of women. The more you meet, the easier it will be to find those that fit the criteria of what you are looking for. Keep in mind that a significant portion of the women you chat with may not turn out to be a person you’d like to actually meet. So cast the net wide and then separate the good catch.

  5. Ask the right questions. The nice thing about chatting is you can ask questions about the other person you normally don’t ask on a first date. Direct questions such as “are you single?”, “what are you looking for in a guy?”, and “what do you normally do for fun?”. And just because you can be more direct, doesn’t mean that you can’t be TOO direct even for online chat. So be sensitive to the person you’re chatting with.

  6. Acquaint yourself with online lingo. Learn the common acronyms used in chats such as IM for internet message, ASL for age/sex/location, LOL for laugh out loud, IMO for in my opinion, S2R for send to receive (for photos, this means the speaker will send a photo of himself after the other party sends their picture first).

  7. Setting up future encounters. If you’ve chatted with a woman that has potential, what should you do next? It may be too early to set up a face to face meeting after just one chat. What you want to do is schedule more chat sessions and get to know each other better. Ask to add her to your buddy list. Down the road, maybe you can exchange photos, email addresses and phone numbers. How fast or how slowly you take it will depend on the level of trust and comfort you’ve established with each other online.
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21 Tips To Overcome Dating Shyness

Posted on May 25, 2010 by Carl Cu

First impressions can make or break a date, especially in a blind date set up by friends. For a lot of guys, one of the worse things that can strike us during this crucial first date is a phenomenon called dating shyness. You know what I’m taking about. You sit across an attractive woman, not knowing what to say, looking uncomfortable, underdressed or maybe even overdressed for the date, all the while witnessing the date go from bad to worse.

First dates and blind dates put a lot of pressure on us. Women expect us to take charge from the get go. Handling a situation with a lot of unknowns is hard enough without dating shyness to paralize us. So, here are 21 tips to help you keep the jitters away:

  1. Do your homework. Learn all you can about your date in advance. If it’s something that your friend has set up, try to get information about her. Where does she work, how old is she, what kind of food or activities does she enjoy. Try to learn as much about her background as you can. Limiting the unknowns is always a good strategy to combat dating shyness.

  2. Choose a venue that you are familiar with. Whenever possible, choose the terms of the date and be the one to make the reservations. Not only will you score points by taking charge, you also get to choose a place that you are already familiar with.

  3. Visualize the outcome of your date. It helps to be mentally prepared. Visualizing how your date will go, what you’re going to talk about, that she’ll be reacting positively, and that you’ll end it perfectly is a good way to condition yourself for a rocking evening.

  4. Initiate contact before the date. Calling your date a few days before your date to say hi, to give her the details of where you’ll meet, and to tell her that you look forward to a great evening with her will help ease the jitters. Keep it short and sweet though. This move shows confidence on your part, and sets the tone for a great date.

  5. Try to get enough sleep the night before your date. You don’t want to be too sleepy or too tired to focus on your date. It helps to make sure you are in tip top shape – physically and mentally.

  6. Choose an appropriate outfit. Being overdressed or underdressed can really affect your confidence level. Now that you’ve chosen the venue, make sure that you choose clothes that are appropriate to the activities you’ve planned for the date. Not sure about your choice? Ask a friend to help you out, or better yet, seek the assistance of fashion consultants that you find in some department stores. They can help you pick out clothes that will look great on you.

  7. Shine your shoes. If you are wearing leather shoes, be sure to shine them. Women will tell you that nothing makes a man look handsome than a polished pair of leather shoes.

  8. Get a haircut a couple of days before. This is not strictly necessary, but if you feel that your hair is too long, or maybe the style is a bit outdated, a trip to a stylist will help to improve your appearance.

  9. Bring a small gift or some flowers. Don’t go to a date empty handed. It’s always nice to have a small present ready – or at the very least some flowers. This tells your date that you’ve thought about her. It’s also a good conversation starter when you talk about why you thought of getting her what you got her.

  10. Observe proper hygiene. Before leaving for the date, make sure you look fresh and smell good. Take a shower, brush your teeth, use some mouthwash, apply some antiperspirant, make sure you’re shaved, style your hair, ears clean, nails trimmed, and splash on some cologne.

  11. Address your physical flaws. Don’t ignore them. If there is something about your physical appearance that you think turns women off, do something about them! Whether it’s a pimple, wearing glasses or body odor, there’s a solution for these, so don’t let them hold you back.

  12. Have a light snack before a dinner date. You don’t want to go on a date with a grumbling stomach. This will make it harder for you to concentrate on your date.

  13. Don’t drink. You might think of getting a drink to calm the nerves. DON’T! Smelling of alcohol on a first date is a big turn off.

  14. Arrive early. Running late will only make you more nervous. Give yourself plenty of time to get to your date. Arrive at least 15 minutes early. This will give you ample time to settle down and get used to the venue before your date arrives.

  15. Bring cash. We rely on credit cards for most of our purchases, but you’ll never know when you might need to use cash. So on a date, keep some cash in your wallet for those unexpected buys.

  16. Bring breath mints. Pop a couple of breath mints before you meet and after dinner. You’ll never know when the right moment for a kiss will present itself.

  17. Be informed of current events. Make sure you at least know the headlines that day. Current events are popular first date conversation topics. So knowing the things that are happening in the world – and in your neighborhood is always a good idea.

  18. Prepare compliments. Women like men who are gracious with compliments. So before your date, think of the many things or ways you can compliment her, and practice saying them. When you do deliver them, make sure they’re sincere and appropriate.

  19. Think “I will have a fantastic date”. We’ve heard it so many times, the mind is a powerful thing. What you think affects how you behave. So if you want to have a fantastic date, think it and believe it.

  20. Focus on having fun. Don’t let the fact that it’s a date ruin an otherwise fantastic evening. No matter how much you prepare, it’s not a guarantee that you’ll find a girl that you will like. So don’t add more pressure on yourself by immediately counting on a second date as a sign of success. If you had fun and she had fun, you can call it a successful date.

  21. Be open to getting to know the other person. Too often, we get caught up in not making any mistakes that we forget that really it’s all about getting to know the other person. So on a date, keep this in mind. It’s not about what you do or don’t do – rather it’s all about making the other person felt heard.

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How: Overcome Shyness Around Women

Posted on January 13, 2010 by Carl Cu

The only way to meet attractive girls is to actually go out and talk to them. This may sound easy, but for a lot of men, it is nearly impossible to rack up enough confidence to approach a woman he thinks is really hot. Just look around you. How many average Joe’s do you see hanging out with supermodels?

And yet for some men, talking and getting the interest of gorgeous women seem to come naturally. These are your players. They may not be the most good looking, or the richest man in the room, but they possess a certain something, an x-factor if you will, that seems to act like a magnet and attract beautiful women to them effortlessly.

So what’s the secret of these players that allows them to overcome the shyness that paralyzes the average man? This is what this article “How: Overcome Shyness Around Women” will reveal to you.

The first secret is that it all starts in the mind. How we perceive ourselves and our surroundings influences how we act around other people. That’s how powerful belief systems can be. The truth is every man has the potential to be a confident ladies’ man – even the balding, fat guy sitting at the back row. If we believe ourselves to be handsome and charming and to be great around women, then it’s very likely that we will be more confident around them.

If you want to build a positive image of yourself and your charm, you can start by verbalizing it. Often, the more we say it, the more we believe it.

Next, create positive interactions with women to prove to show yourself that you are indeed someone women will find attractive.  You can choose to start small. Start by making eye contact and sharing warm smiles with women that you run into. Next, you probably could offer to open doors or carry heavy objects for women or maybe offer a seat. You may not know it, but these acts of chivalry are things women find flattering. You’ll surely receive warm smiles and a blushing thanks as a reward for your efforts.

Once you see that you really are charming and your really are someone women find attractive, you’ll be more confident around women.

The second thing is to pay attention to how we present ourselves to the world. This is another thing that affects how we view ourselves and how we are perceived by women. Whether we like it or not, we are judged by our appearance – maybe not consciously, but we cannot deny that it influences the first impressions people make of us. We all know that women decide they’re interested in us or not in the first few seconds of meeting us, so you can bet that a lot of that decision happens unconsciously.

What does our appearance tell women unconsciously? Well, for one, it says a lot about our health. If we are attracted to mates who can give our offspring the best chance of survival, then it makes sense that women will want the fittest and healthiest among the available males.

Another thing that our appearances communicate is our social structure. Again, in line with the survival of the fittest theory, the man who has a better chance of survival is one to whom a lot of resources is available, the acknowledged social leader. This is the alpha male.

So be sure to pay attention to how you look.  Like I mentioned earlier, you don’t have to be a male supermodel to pull this off. It’s primarily about observing proper hygiene, wearing clothes that fit well and that show a bit of your personality.

The last secret that I want to share with you in this article has to do with your personality. We all enjoy being around people who love life – people who are interested in something (which may just be one thing or a lot of things) and pursue this interest passionately. And if you want to be successful around women, then this is something you need to cultivate in yourself.

A lot of things happen when you are passionate about something. For one, it distinguishes you from other men who are vying for the attention of gorgeous women. You are not just a pretty face. You are someone who cares about something.

Another thing that it does is it gives you something that you can talk about and share that will come across as sincere (and not just something you put on for show to make women fall for you). This could also be something she’ll look to you for. You’re an expert at something. And in the world of that something, you are an alpha male as a result of your passionate interest.

This third secret is a bit harder to master than the first two, because it’s something that’s very hard to fabricate. What you need to do is discover what it is you love – what it is you are passionate about. And in order to do this, you need to broaden your horizon, step out of your comfort zone, and explore the world around you. The journey promises to be a rewarding one, so I hope you elect to take it.

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Decoding Her Attraction Signals – 7 Sure Signs She’s Attracted To You

Posted on January 5, 2010 by Carl Cu

If you could read women’s minds, it would be all too easy to find out what moves work and how to get the best response from her. While we don’t have access to women’s minds, we do have access to their body language, which is the next best thing. Decoding the attraction signals her body unconsciously sends will help us figure out whether she is attracted to us, too.

There are a lot of signals to watch out for. So be sure to keep your eyes open for these signs:

  • Eye contact. Do you catch her stealing glances in your direction? And when you look at her, does she always quickly look away, flushed and embarrassed? This tells you that she definitely finds you interesting. She wants to observe what you are like when you are not looking, but is embarrassed to have you find out just how obsessed she is with you. How often her gaze falls on you is also an indication of how much she likes you. The more often she turns to find where you are, the more attracted she is to you.
  • She’s always there in the places you go to. She’s not stalking you. She’s just trying to get herself noticed. If she’s suddenly every where in the places and parties you go to, and you know that it’s not her usual thing to be in some of those places, then you can bet that she’s sending you some pretty strong attraction signals.
  • She agrees with everything you say. When a girl likes a guy, she tends to agree with everything he says. This shows in her body language as well. She would always be facing the guy, listening to what he has to say. She’d be nodding often, sometimes repeating or rephrasing what he has just said. If you were to ask her out, she would always say yes, going as far as re-arranging her schedule to accommodate it.
  • She stands in your circle of personal space. You know she likes you when she positions herself close to you. When walking, even without touching, she’d be inside your circle of personal space. This gesture tells you that she wants to be closer to you, and she’s ready for your relationship to be more than friendly.
  • She plays with her hair and exposes her neck. When you talk to her, does she flip her hair back behind her ear? It means she wants to listen to what you have to say. Does she move her hair back to expose her neck? Drawing attention to her long, slender neck is a sure sign of attraction. This tells you that she wants you to think she’s sexy.
  • She enjoys being alone with you. Do you always find yourself spending some alone time with her? It may not be as spontaneous as it seems to be. When a girl likes you, she’ll find a way to get you alone. Maybe she’ll volunteer the two of you to buy snacks for everybody or lure you to the dance floor. However it happens, if you find yourself with her and just her, you can trust that she finds you attractive, too.
  • She initiates physical contact. She may not come out and grab your hand, but she’ll be increasing the frequency of friendly skin to skin contact between the two of you. Maybe she’ll be standing close to you so your bodies touch. Or maybe she will sling her arm around yours when you guys are walking together. You will be able to tell if it’s a casual touch of if it means something else by observing how she is with other people. If she’s the type who creates a careful no-contact space between her and her other male friends, then you can be sure her casual touch means a lot more.


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