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When you’re talking to a woman with the intention, or hope, of attracting her, it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also the words you choose to use to say it. Words are powerful. They can give the person hearing them a real emotional response. For example, read the following two lists of words.

List one:

- Death
- Black
- Dying
- Murder
- Pain
- Lies
- Funeral
- Cancer

List two:

- Smile
- Happy
- Health
- Success
- Inspiration

If you read both of those lists out loud, you’ll find that the first one tends to make you feel less lively and happy than the second one, which should make your mood feel much lighter and happier. That happens not just because of what the words mean, but because the words themselves are linked in our minds with different emotional states. If the word funeral is said, we don’t think we’re at a funeral, but we do feel a small degree of negative emotion because we’re reminded of the idea of a funeral. This is all just a way of saying that words really matter when you’re giving messages—and attracting a woman is all about giving her the right messages.

When you are in a conversation with a woman you want to attract, you should bear the following in mind. You should always describe the components of your stories in the detail they deserve

Here are two extracts from a story a man might tell a woman while speaking to her. The first one contains very little descriptiveness, whereas the second one is full of it.

#1: “I was out there with a couple of my friends on my lunch break. We were just minding our own business. Anyway, I think I was laughing about something just as our boss walked out. He’s weird. He comes up to me and asks, “What’s the big joke?” So I just say that I was laughing at something I saw on The Simpsons the other day and he makes a funny noise and walks off.”

#2: “I was on my lunch break with my friends Joe and David. We were sitting on the wall we always sit on, eating our sandwiches and whatnot. I’m cracking up about this thing that was on The Simpsons the night before. It was one of those things that was pretty funny, but at that moment, was hilarious. So out walks our boss who’s always got a chip on his shoulder. He strolls up to us in his denim suit and is like “What’s the big idea? What’s funny?” I’m a little confused, so I tell him what I was laughing at and he gives me this look, like he’s just realised that he’s forgotten to out his underwear on that morning or something—just a deflation. He’s unhappy. He saunters off, leaving us pretty bemused. Some bosses are just weird though, don’t you think? It’s something about their position of authority…”

The two stories are pretty much the same but the second one is improved by more details, better word choice and more of a structure. It also has a pay-off, or a point at the end of it, which is that bosses seem to be weird a lot of the time. That way, the woman doesn’t feel like you’ve just told her a story which she can’t easily respond to. The story, apart from being entertaining, also has a point. So, remember:

- Choose interesting words over plain ones. “Bemused” is better than “confused”. “Like a gorilla” is better than “He was well-built”. Liven your language up without going overboard and sounding like a walking thesaurus.

- Structure your short stories so they have a beginning, a middle and an end.

- Make sure your stories have a pay-off at the end which allows the woman to respond with her own comments or stories.

Do you got moves? Or, to put it another way, what’s your dancing technique like? Any good?

Dancing with women is a GREAT way to attract them for the following reasons:

- It Demonstrates Confidence

It takes a lot of confidence to dance and even more to dance in front of attractive members of the opposite sex. If you can do both of those things, then you can effectively show women that you are confident in a matter of seconds. Think about it. Usually a woman would have to talk to you for a couple of minutes before she could gauge your level of self-confidence. When she sees you dancing, however, she can tell you’re confident in a split second—as long as you’re dancing confidently.

- It Shows Off Your Body Skills

You’ve probably heard the old idea that guys who can dance are better in bed than guys who can’t. This probably isn’t strictly true, but it nevertheless might as well be when you’re in a club dancing in front of women. If you know how to use your body when you dance (that is, dance in a stylish, fluid way without looking gay or embarrassed) then women will naturally assume that you know how to use your body in other ways. And this isn’t a way of saying that all women care about is how good you are in the sack. It’s just like the way men see a woman dancing in a sexy way and they find it attractive—not just because they admire her technical ability to get down on the dance floor.

- It’s Silent

The music is blaring but the dancing is silent—there are no words spoken. That’s why dancing can be a welcome relief from verbal conversation for a woman. She gets to just let loose without the worry of an interaction with a man or woman feeling awkward or like hard work. And even though you’re not talking while you dance, you can say just as much to the woman with your eyes and your facial expressions.

There are certain things you SHOULDN’T do when you dance with a woman you’ve only just met. One is touch her unless she touches you first and even then you should stay pretty hands-off. You don’t want to give any of your value away by making it look like you’re entranced by her. Also, you shouldn’t dance right in front of her without breaking eye contact. You need to show that you’re dancing for yourself, so don’t be afraid to turn around 360 degrees as you dance and totally break eye contact with the woman for a moment or two. She’ll like the fact that you have the to confidence to do that and believe me, she’ll still be there when you turn back around.

The best way to learn about most things is from experience—learning about the game of attraction and seduction is no different. In fact, it’s probably truer in this case than any.

A lot of guys mistakenly believe that the best way to learn about the game is by reading books and getting information from the internet. You’re reading this right now, for example. But information, no matter where it’s from, is only a start. You need to put it to use before it can be considered truly worth something. If you want to get good at talking to and attracting women, you  need to try your best to bite the bullet and get out there. You need to do what is necessary to learn as much as possible as quickly as possible. You might think there isn’t any rush—but why wait? The only reason you’d put it off would be out of fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of failure. Here are five things you can do to learn A LOT about the game of attraction and seduction QUICKLY:

- Go out to a nightclub or somewhere with a lot groups of people and approach a few of them. Don’t worry about attracting any women, just focus on integrating yourself into the group. This is HUGE step for you, but it’s also going to be one of your most important skills once you’ve got good at it.

- Start a few conversations with women who are by themselves during the daytime. Again, don’t worry too much about attracting her. Concentrate on the tensions that exist between you and her as you talk to each other. Look at her body language and see how her behaviour changes when you change yours, in good ways and bad.
- Find a guy who is good at talking to women and become his shadow. No joke. You need to find a friend or a friend of a friend who is good with women and absorb everything good that you notice about what he does. Get a spectator seat up close and personal. Be right there as he talks to the girls. If you don’t know anyone who is better than you, then find someone. Make some new male friends—it’s easier than making female ones.

- Talk to some women about what they find attractive in men. Don’t expect all, or any, of their answers to match up, but learn what you can from them. Don’t worry about appearing clueless because you’re asking. Who cares? Just talk about it. You can offer the male perspective on things. Align and compare what women tell you about what they like men to be like with what you know about what women want and need. What stuff matches up and what contradicts something else? Learn.

- Finally, just push the boat out in every other area you can. Make an approach at a time you’d have previously not made one. Take a few controlled risks.

Taking the plunge by doing the stuff just described is the best and fastest way to learn about the game attraction and seduction.

The art of flirting can sometimes seem counter-intuitive. It doesn’t work like you’d logically expect it to. You’d think, on paper, that making fun of a girl would be a bad strategy for attracting her, but in reality this of course isn’t the case. You HAVE to make fun of her if you want to stand a chance of creating sexual chemistry. Of course, ‘making fun’ isn’t quite the right way to describe the kind of flirting we’re talking about—the good kind.

This post is about goofy comments. These are things you say to a girl to tease her in just the right way. The comments should come across as flirty but not TOO flirty. They should tease the girl but not be TOO controversial. If you’re too heavy-handed about delivering goofy comments, the girl will instantly recognize that you’re trying to tease her to make her react. So, what is a goofy comment in the context of attracting a woman? Well, in this case, it’s not the comment that’s goofy, it’s the aspect of the girl’s appearance or personality that is being drawn attention to. The main goal of a goofy comment is to slightly dent the girl’s image as a sexy, feminine woman without insulting her. And that’s a very important point—these comments aren’t back-handed compliments and they aren’t insulting. They’re fun and they should be things the girl will enjoy questioning you about. So, here’s a few examples of goofy comments:

- “Those shoes you’re wearing are cool—they’re like pixie boots.”

- “I like your retro-styling. Very daring!”

- “I love the way your eyes twitch when you laugh. Not twitch. I mean twinkle. I think.”

- “You’ve got shifty eyes, like you’re planning something evil…”

- “You like dancing? Cool. What’s your speciality? Let me guess…the robot. I bet you do a seriously good robot.”

- “…I disagree. You look like you could take down a couple of guys if you had to.”

- “I’d suggest we settle this little disagreement with an arm wrestle, but I dunno, I think you’d be a formidable opponent. You’ve got a look of determination in your eyes.”

As you can see, the one thing these goofy comments have in common is that all very subtly hint that the woman isn’t the sexy woman she wants to be—but NOT in a serious or derogatory way. They’re harmless, but they work.

Ever wondered where to go on your first date? Dinner? The movies? Something fun?

Believe it or not, this is one of the BIGGEST stumbling blocks most guys have and we see them making the same mistakes again and again…

Where you take her on the 1st date is the difference between total successful attraction, and going home alone and have her never answer your calls again or all of sudden, become real busy… Washing her hair.

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