Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

The only way to meet attractive girls is to actually go out and talk to them. This may sound easy, but for a lot of men, it is nearly impossible to rack up enough confidence to approach a woman he thinks is really hot. Just look around you. How many average Joe’s do you see hanging out with supermodels?

And yet for some men, talking and getting the interest of gorgeous women seem to come naturally. These are your players. They may not be the most good looking, or the richest man in the room, but they possess a certain something, an x-factor if you will, that seems to act like a magnet and attract beautiful women to them effortlessly.

So what’s the secret of these players that allows them to overcome the shyness that paralyzes the average man? This is what this article “How: Overcome Shyness Around Women” will reveal to you.

The first secret is that it all starts in the mind. How we perceive ourselves and our surroundings influences how we act around other people. That’s how powerful belief systems can be. The truth is every man has the potential to be a confident ladies’ man - even the balding, fat guy sitting at the back row. If we believe ourselves to be handsome and charming and to be great around women, then it’s very likely that we will be more confident around them.

If you want to build a positive image of yourself and your charm, you can start by verbalizing it. Often, the more we say it, the more we believe it.

Next, create positive interactions with women to prove to show yourself that you are indeed someone women will find attractive.  You can choose to start small. Start by making eye contact and sharing warm smiles with women that you run into. Next, you probably could offer to open doors or carry heavy objects for women or maybe offer a seat. You may not know it, but these acts of chivalry are things women find flattering. You’ll surely receive warm smiles and a blushing thanks as a reward for your efforts.

Once you see that you really are charming and your really are someone women find attractive, you’ll be more confident around women.

The second thing is to pay attention to how we present ourselves to the world. This is another thing that affects how we view ourselves and how we are perceived by women. Whether we like it or not, we are judged by our appearance - maybe not consciously, but we cannot deny that it influences the first impressions people make of us. We all know that women decide they’re interested in us or not in the first few seconds of meeting us, so you can bet that a lot of that decision happens unconsciously.

What does our appearance tell women unconsciously? Well, for one, it says a lot about our health. If we are attracted to mates who can give our offspring the best chance of survival, then it makes sense that women will want the fittest and healthiest among the available males.

Another thing that our appearances communicate is our social structure. Again, in line with the survival of the fittest theory, the man who has a better chance of survival is one to whom a lot of resources is available, the acknowledged social leader. This is the alpha male.

So be sure to pay attention to how you look.  Like I mentioned earlier, you don’t have to be a male supermodel to pull this off. It’s primarily about observing proper hygiene, wearing clothes that fit well and that show a bit of your personality.

The last secret that I want to share with you in this article has to do with your personality. We all enjoy being around people who love life - people who are interested in something (which may just be one thing or a lot of things) and pursue this interest passionately. And if you want to be successful around women, then this is something you need to cultivate in yourself.

A lot of things happen when you are passionate about something. For one, it distinguishes you from other men who are vying for the attention of gorgeous women. You are not just a pretty face. You are someone who cares about something.

Another thing that it does is it gives you something that you can talk about and share that will come across as sincere (and not just something you put on for show to make women fall for you). This could also be something she’ll look to you for. You’re an expert at something. And in the world of that something, you are an alpha male as a result of your passionate interest.

This third secret is a bit harder to master than the first two, because it’s something that’s very hard to fabricate. What you need to do is discover what it is you love - what it is you are passionate about. And in order to do this, you need to broaden your horizon, step out of your comfort zone, and explore the world around you. The journey promises to be a rewarding one, so I hope you elect to take it.

If you could read women’s minds, it would be all too easy to find out what moves work and how to get the best response from her. While we don’t have access to women’s minds, we do have access to their body language, which is the next best thing. Decoding the attraction signals her body unconsciously sends will help us figure out whether she is attracted to us, too.

There are a lot of signals to watch out for. So be sure to keep your eyes open for these signs:

• Eye contact. Do you catch her stealing glances in your direction? And when you look at her, does she always quickly look away, flushed and embarrassed? This tells you that she definitely finds you interesting. She wants to observe what you are like when you are not looking, but is embarrassed to have you find out just how obsessed she is with you. How often her gaze falls on you is also an indication of how much she likes you. The more often she turns to find where you are, the more attracted she is to you.
• She’s always there in the places you go to. She’s not stalking you. She’s just trying to get herself noticed. If she’s suddenly every where in the places and parties you go to, and you know that it’s not her usual thing to be in some of those places, then you can bet that she’s sending you some pretty strong attraction signals.
• She agrees with everything you say. When a girl likes a guy, she tends to agree with everything he says. This shows in her body language as well. She would always be facing the guy, listening to what he has to say. She’d be nodding often, sometimes repeating or rephrasing what he has just said. If you were to ask her out, she would always say yes, going as far as re-arranging her schedule to accommodate it.
• She stands in your circle of personal space. You know she likes you when she positions herself close to you. When walking, even without touching, she’d be inside your circle of personal space. This gesture tells you that she wants to be closer to you, and she’s ready for your relationship to be more than friendly.
• She plays with her hair and exposes her neck. When you talk to her, does she flip her hair back behind her ear? It means she wants to listen to what you have to say. Does she move her hair back to expose her neck? Drawing attention to her long, slender neck is a sure sign of attraction. This tells you that she wants you to think she’s sexy.
• She enjoys being alone with you. Do you always find yourself spending some alone time with her? It may not be as spontaneous as it seems to be. When a girl likes you, she’ll find a way to get you alone. Maybe she’ll volunteer the two of you to buy snacks for everybody or lure you to the dance floor. However it happens, if you find yourself with her and just her, you can trust that she finds you attractive, too.
• She initiates physical contact. She may not come out and grab your hand, but she’ll be increasing the frequency of friendly skin to skin contact between the two of you. Maybe she’ll be standing close to you so your bodies touch. Or maybe she will sling her arm around yours when you guys are walking together. You will be able to tell if it’s a casual touch of if it means something else by observing how she is with other people. If she’s the type who creates a careful no-contact space between her and her other male friends, then you can be sure her casual touch means a lot more.