How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

Did you know that looking like you have a girlfriend is the best way to actually get a really hot one?

You’ve no doubt experienced this before. You want to talk to a woman, but when you start a conversation with her, something doesn’t feel right. It’s like she can tell you’re a single guy looking to attract someone and date her. And, as a result, she doesn’t want to commit to properly talking to you. Your chances of attracting her are therefore nil, or close to it. So, what can you do? You can use an extremely clever psychological principle…that’s what.

When a girl sees a guy with his girlfriend, especially if his girlfriend has high social value (which often stems from her being attractive and/or having a large and popular social circle of friends, both male and female) she knows instantly that he possesses boyfriend-quality traits and characteristics. He’s wanted by another woman as is seen by her to be attractive and socially high-ranking. This is a perfect short-cut for all women who see him with his girlfriend, because a massive part of the work they’d usually have to do, which would involve testing him and watching him to determine how viable he is as a partner, has been done for them.

Before you say it, I know what you’re thinking: “That’s great, but if I already had a girlfriend, I wouldn’t need to worry about attracting other girls!” Aside from the “already taken” side of this concept being good to know for future reference and use when you do have a girlfriend, it can still be used in the field to the same effect without having a girlfriend. The psychology can be exploited in exactly the same way.

Here’s how.

When women see you talking to other women, impressing them and generally successfully interacting with them, the “he’s taken so must have something going for him” concept kicks in. They find you more attractive and of higher social value. So any time you can talk to a girl or group of girls in a club or bar, for example, DO IT and do it WELL. Other girls in the place will subconsciously clock you and mark you as “high social value” in their minds.

You can take advantage of the “out of reach” part of this concept by deflecting your attention away from your real target girl and onto one of her male or female friends. Clearly, if it’s a male friend you’ll deflect onto, you won’t be trying to attract him – instead you should simply aim to win him over and get him on your side. This will act as further proof in your target girl’s mind that you’re socially intelligent, conversationally capable and, therefore, sexually attractive.

If you are deflecting onto a female, then use similar techniques to those you’d use to attract any girl – tease her, be warm then a little cold, play the whole push/pull game with her, etc. It doesn’t matter that she isn’t your actual target female – when any girl that is your target sees you interacting with another girl well, she’ll boost her opinion of you in her mind and therefore become more interested in getting some of your attention. A large part of the “out of reach” side of this concept is in being exactly that: a little out of reach. What I mean is this. When you’re out with friends, most of which will probably be guys, you need to remember that they are your tribe.

They’re the ones you’re loyal to over everyone else. After all, you’ve probably known them for years – why should you value anyone else more than them? Guys who fail to do this and, in a effort to attract girls, follow them around and generally spend too much time focusing their attention on girls they’ve only just met convey to them the following message: “I’m so excited by being in your company, an attractive woman, that I’ll do whatever it takes to be around you for even just a little bit longer.”

This is obviously a pretty unappealing thing for women to notice in a guy. They want men who lead their tribes confidently and casually, not men who break away from their tribes for unnatural periods of time to chase women. So, make it your goal to always involve your friends in your interaction with a girl every 10 minutes or so.

If you’re not with friends when you open, involve other people by bringing them into the conversation. Doing so will keep your high social value intact and boost the feeling of scarcity in the girl’s mind when it comes to getting and keeping your attention. Don’t be standoffish, though. Be charismatic and funny by all means – just remember to spread yourself around and deflect your focus onto other people often, especially if you’re with friends.

Having a female wing (someone you’re out with who can join in with the interactions you have with girls) is a really great way of using this concept. And, on a side note, avoid opening with just you and one friend who’s a guy. It looks sleazy and feels intimidating to women. Instead, open by yourself then have your male wing join you 5 minutes later. That way your social value suddenly shoots up and the conversation is given a new spark because of his presence. So, here’s what you need to remember:

1. When you talk to attractive women, other women will see you and become attracted to you. It doesn’t matter if you’re succeeding in attracting a woman. As long as you are talking to her and it looks likes it’s going well from afar, other women will mark you as high-value and attractive in their minds. Possibly the best way to take advantage of this concept is to go out with female friends as well as male friends.

2. You should never give more attention to women you don’t know than the male friends you’ve known for years. This makes you look try-hard and false. Instead, bring your male friends into your conversations with women and make sure you’re always showing that you’re loyal to the people you know, above anyone else.