A boke name is a nickname you give a girl or a term you use to describe her while you’re attempting to attract and ‘seduce’ her. The reason boke names should be used are as follows:
• They bond you and the girl by creating rapport
• They gently tease the girl, but only in a positive way
• They let other people know that you and the girl are developing something between the two of you
So, what are boke names and how should you use them? Boke is a combination of the words bond and joke, because the name or term you use is a joke that bonds you and the girl, as well as teasing her in just the right way. Here’s how one might be used.
A guy has been interacting with a girl for about 45 minutes. He’s never met her before tonight. They’ve already started flirting with each other—it’s obvious she likes him, although perhaps not yet enough to kiss him or give him her number. So, he uses a boke term. They’re sitting with each other and he turns to her and says, “Okay, wife. What kind of pet are we going to get?” The role play begins. She takes on the role of his wife and they pretend to be a married couple. They choose a kind of pet (a badass gorilla) as the first thing they do. It goes on like this.
Another kind of boke is calling the girl a slightly goofy but affectionate name, like Froggy or Pixie. Choose a feature about her (but don’t be too mean) and declare that from now you are going to call her….whatever. The girl will laugh, perhaps pretend to be insulted (while secretly really loving it) and she may even give you your own. Make sure that the first time you use a boke name with the girl is when it’s just you and her—no on else should hear it. This is very important, because if you use the boke name in front of her friends it could embarrass her enough for her to reject it in some way, even if deep down she’d like to play along.
Boke names allow you to develop a little unique theme or in-joke between you and a girl, which can prove invaluable as you move through the process of getting to know each other. That’s because sometimes, when you’ve only just a met a girl, it can feel strange using her name a lot—after all, you don’t really know her. Using a boke name allows you to get around this. When you use them, remember the following:
• Don’t use the boke name as if you’re looking for her to respond in a particular way. Don’t say the name, then stare at her as if in anticipation of her using one for you or something.
• Use the name in almost a throwaway manner—very casual. “That’s it…from now on I’m going to call you my little Tigger…that sums up your excitable nature,” then just carry on talking. She’ll laugh and you’ll all forget about it, THEN, later on, you can poke her gently with your elbow and say, “Come on, tigger. Let’s bounce over here…” That kind of usage of a boke name can make the difference from being able to go somewhere private with your target girl, and having to stay in a large group of her friends. And that’s a big difference.