Getting a girl’s phone number is the classic end to the so-called ‘pick-up’. That’s because it’s the best way to keep in contact with the woman you’ve attracted. You don’t know her well enough to arrange a date and certainly not enough to go back to her place or invite her back to yours—so you do the best you can, you get her number. First things first, it’s always better to keep things equal when you perform your close, so don’t just get her number; swap numbers with each other.
Okay, so let’s think about the main difficulties of closing by swapping phone numbers.
• If it’s not done right, the close can come out of nowhere and seem like a big surprise to the woman. This is not good.
• Asking for her number can reek of ‘picking up women’. You don’t her to think that’s what you’re doing, because it isn’t.
• If other people see you getting your phone out to get her number, they might think you’re trying to pick her up. And if those people who see are her friends, they might take umbrage to it.
So, how can you make the action of swapping numbers with her as smooth and stress-free as possible? One of the best things you can do is use habituation.
Habituation means getting used to something because you’re exposed to it a lot. For example:
• You can’t really detect your body’s own unique smell
• You get used to plug-in fragrances after a while
• The more time you spend high up, the less you tend to fear heights
So, you’re going to use the same principle to make the moment you take out your phone to swap numbers with the woman go perfectly. Here are a couple of ways to achieve that.
• At some point in your long interaction with the woman, you should describe a scenario using several props, one of which will be your phone. For example, you once went to Spain and saw/took part in the bull run thing, where they release a bull and everyone runs away and generally tries to avoid getting killed (you might want to pick something less cruel actually, in case she takes offence to it, but you get the idea. Pick something with lots of action.) Now say, “Here, this is the best way to describe it.” Collect a few objects. Use a glass to represent a wall, some coins to represent some people and YOUR PHONE to represent the bull. Now go about playing out the crazy event. Make it funny and full of action. Make sure it’s your phone that plays the main role in the little action scene, so she’s looking at it constantly. You can end it by making the bull/phone leap onto her leg, which will make her laugh while also making her feel really comfortable with your phone. THEN, you leave your phone on the table in front of you for the rest of the conversation. When you come to close, you just lean forward and casually pick up your phone and say, “Wanna swap numbers with my bull?” or something equally (or more) casual and funny.
• The above method is perhaps the strongest way to habitualize the woman to your phone, but you can ask her to take a photo of you doing something on your phone. Show her how to do it first, of course. Or you can mix that action with a good flirty comment. “Let’s take a picture of us doing our scary faces (or whatever). Here…on my phone. Actually you hold it out while we do it, you’ve got nice long arms.” Cue laughter and “Oh my god!!” Perfect.
These methods of getting a girl used to you phone make closing by swapping numbers much, much easier.