The guys in this world who regularly fail to make something happen with the women they meet are invariably unsuccessful because they don’t properly cover 7 different aspects of attraction and seduction process. Today we’ll look at this 7 areas so that you never make the same mistake.
1. Body Language
To attract women, you body language must be solid. It must show that you are:
• Comfortable in your surroundings
• Relaxed in the company of the people you’re with
• Socially experienced
• Aware of your body and how it looks
If your body language doesn’t do those things, then you’re going to risk putting women off you before you get a real chance to verbally interact with them. They won’t dislike you, they’ll just see you as shy or awkward and therefore probably harder to talk to.
So, make sure your movements are controlled and not rushed. Reach for your drink in a casual, smooth, fluid motion—don’t grab it, sip from it, then slam it back on the table. Try not to lean in too much when talking to the woman—it could make you look a little too keen. Express your emotions with your face, don’t do the thing lots of guys make the mistake of doing by trying to play it cool and not expressing anything.
2. Voice Volume, Speed and Emotion
Our voices say a lot about is. If your voice is quiet and your words are mumbled, you can imagine the impression you’re going to give a woman when you talk to her: a bad one. Make sure you project your voice so it’s clear and confident, but at the same time, don’t shout (unless you need to because you’re in a loud nightclub). Also, pronounce words fully. Don’t swear unless you know for a fact that the woman won’t mind it. Don’t speak too quickly, because loudly, quickly spoken words aren’t much better than quietly, quickly spoken words. Make sure there is emotion in your voice as well as on your face. One should mirror the other.
3. Appearance
The more you can improve your appearance so that it matches up with what most women consider to be attractive, the better. Make sure you shoes are the same style as the rest of your outfit. It’s hard to give you specific advice on what to wear, because styles change and the particular style you’d most like to personify is anybody’s guess—but take some of your cues from what you see in popular men’s fashion stores and in good men’s magazines. Don’t ape their style—try to develop your own…but do it with a reference in mind.
4. Be Interesting
Unless you are interesting, the it’s impossible for a woman to be interested in you. You need to identify what kind of person you are and become totally aware of what you believe in, what you love, what you hate, the people you admire, and all the other things that create and interact with your personal integrity. You don’t want to find yourself in a conversation with a woman floundering on a particular topic because you don’t know what the best thing to say is—know yourself…because it’s the most important thing needed to allow women to know you too.
5. Get Good At Flirting
You need to be able to flirt effortlessly and without fear and to achieve that state, you must practice. You’ll falter sometimes, a flirty comment will go over the woman’s head or make her feel confused, but all training is good training. Remember the essence of good flirting: it’s about teasing the woman and giving her a bit of a challenge, all without it looking like you’re only doing it to make her like you.
6. Become Good At Bonding
Being able to bond with a girl is very important if you want to date her. It’s one thing sexually attracting her using flirting and teasing, but if you can’t bond with her, you can forget about her becoming your girlfriend. Bonding means developing a strong feeling of rapport between you and the girl which goes beyond the basic level of rapport all people have after talking to one another for 10 or more minutes. You and the girl need to feel like you can trust each other, that you know quite a lot about each other, and that you want to get to know each other MORE.
7. Close Fearlessly
Even when they’ve got strong attraction and a good bond with a girl, lots of guys will avoid closing the interaction by swapping numbers with her or kissing her because they’re scared the girl will reject them. You need to close without fear. As long as the signs are there that she’s attracted to you, and you’ve spent at least an hour bonding after attraction has been created, you can close. Be casual about it and do not hesitate. Just come right out and say it, like it’s obvious and simple: “We should swap numbers…” then you take out your phone. Boom. It’s as simple as that—try it.