There’s no doubt about it: finishing a good conversation with a woman by asking for her number or arranging another meet-up with her can be tricky…very tricky.
In fact, it’s quite possibly the biggest stumbling block men have when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.
It’s the point in the conversation when everything seems to go out of the window.
They don’t know whether to say outright what they want, or to try and be ‘subtle’ about it.
They don’t know if the girl will slap them or hug them. It’s hard—but only when you don’t know what the rules are for closing.
Closing is the final stage in a conversation you have with a woman. It’s the point at which you need to arrange something or swap contact information.
Here are some solid tips and pieces of advice to help you close in style, quickly and risk-free.
Tip #1: It shouldn’t be a shock to the girl. It should instead feel like the natural, obvious and mutually-desired outcome to what has been a fun, flirtatious, exciting social interaction.
Tip #2: Be bold and outright. Don’t skirt around the subject of you both seeing each other again. Be enthusiastic, because enthusiasm is contagious. If you’re passionate about the idea of seeing each other again, she’ll be passionate about the idea too. Women spend years hoping for just that kind of mutually enjoyed sexual chemistry.
Tip #3: Avoid the clichéd method of closing so many men use at the end of their conversations with women. You need to dodge these because they’ve become too closely associated with the idea of men controlling women, which isn’t what you’re about. Clichéd closes include things like asking for a girl’s number. A better closer than this one is to SWAP numbers. As well as avoiding the cliché, by swapping contact details you also maintain the balance of power between the two of you. Only getting her cell phone number would be giving her all of the control. Women, as you know, don’t find men who aren’t in some sort of control of them attractive.
Tip #4: Don’t beat about the bush or be indecisive. Instead of saying,
“How about we do something sometime?” be specific. Suggest exactly what it is you could do and when. Here’s why you should do this.
It relates to a universal aspect of the human decision making process. Imagine asking a child what they want to eat for their dinner. Unless they have a favorite dish, it’s pretty likely they won’t give you a straight answer. Even if they do reply with a specific answer, there’s a strong likelihood it won’t be the one you’re looking for. Now imagine saying to a kid,
“Do you want spaghetti or pizza for your dinner?”
By limiting their options you make them choose between two choices, both of which are fine by you. When you suggest to a girl you go see a movie, you make her think about that specific event. Even if she doesn’t want to do exactly that, the fact is that you’ve made her think about doing SOMETHING with you, as opposed to nothing – which is what would have come to mind, or not, as the case happens to be, if you had been too broad and non-specific in your suggestion.
When you’re bold and direct with your closer, women tend to respond quickly and positively. You’ve done the hard work for them and they love that fact.