Something you always want to avoid when talking to a woman (if you’d like to sexually attract her) is getting into a simple back-and-forth mode of speaking to each other. Here’s what that means.
First, you say something.
YOU: “I suppose the best thing about my job is that I get to meet a lot of new people, which keeps it interesting.”
Then there’s a slight pause and she says something in response.
HER: “I pretty much work with the same people every day, but I get along with them pretty well.”
Then you say something.
YOU: “That’s cool. How long have you worked there?
And she answers. Blah, Blah. You get the idea.
That is what is meant by a simple back-and-forth. You and the girl switch back and forth between the speaker and listener roles. You state something and she states something in response, then when the topic is starting to get a little too tricky or overdone, one of you asks the other something to start a new topic.
Getting into this kind of back-and-forth is a good start when talking to a woman, but that’s all it should be: a start. As quickly as possible, you’ve got to break the pattern or you and her switching between the speaker and listener roles. You have to mix it up and make it exciting and free-flowing. It needs to be unpredictable and spontaneous. As soon as you feel like the conversation has reached a back-and-forth stage, you should tell the woman a short, interesting story that is relevant to what you’re talking about. Only men who are scared of losing the woman’s attention stick to saying a couple of sentences before handing the speaker role back to the woman. You need to buck this trend by telling a story. So, you’ve just been talking about the people you work with. She’s said she gets along with the people at her workplace—this is your chance to tell her a short, funny story. This story will be the first thing to break the back-and-forth.
YOU: “This guy I work with absolutely hates meeting new people. In fact, I think he hates all people. He does everything he can to avoid interacting with ANYONE. Like, he piles all of his files up on his desk to block out the desks on the other side. There must be 15 files. We call it the Leaning Tower of Pete’s Desk. Although his name is Paul. He’s been told about a hundred times by the boss to take it down, but he refuses. He says it’s his filing system. He knows where everything is, he says. Can you believe that?”
That’s a nice little story and it only takes 35 seconds to tell it. It’s perfect, because it relates to the topic you and the woman are on and it’s adding new, interesting information to the conversation. Also, parts of the story also make her laugh and smile, which is very important.
Once you’ve told that story, you’ve allowed new assets to enter into your conversation, a new tool: story-telling. Before, you and the woman were swapping short bits of information about yourselves. Now it’s been established that it’s okay to tell stories about yourself and your life. Once the woman recognizes this fact, which she immediately will, she’ll feel happy and enthusiastic about telling you her own stories and anecdotes. A great way to finish one of your stories if you think the woman isn’t likely to immediately respond with a fairly good story of her own is to ask her a question like, “Do you work with anyone who’s a little strange?” Because you’ve just invested time and effort into telling her about someone you work with, she’ll really feel like she’ll want to tell you one of her own stories or anecdotes. It’s amazing and it works every time. Tell a good story and then prompt the woman and she will respond in FULL with enthusiasm. The better your story is—the funnier and the more fun to listen to it is—the better her response will be.
As well as breaking the back-and-forth by telling each other stories, you should also aim to:
Play a game at some point. It doesn’t matter what the game you play is, as long as it’s some kind of game. For example, eye-spy, Would You Rather…, Rock, Paper, Scissors, etc. They might sound childish, but that’s the whole point…if you can act like children together, you can do anything…