A confident, funny guy could have an hour-long verbal interaction with an attractive, enthusiastic girl without her ever even considering him anything more than a temporary conversation IF he failed to tease her in the necessary way.
Teasing a girl, also known as flirting with her, is an absolutely crucial thing every man must do if he wants to create enough sexual chemistry and rapport with her to arrange a date. Let’s look an example of a conversation between a man and woman that contains no flirting.
HIM: How long have you worked there?
HER: Let me think. About a year I think.
HIM: What’s it like?
HER: It’s good, I like it. Where do you work?
HIM: At the moment I’m working at a clothing store. I’m a manager there, so basically I tell people where to hang t-shirts and how to fold jeans. It’s a hoot.
HER: He he. I bet you get a good discount though, right?
HIM: Yeah, I do actually, 30%. So if you ever want some discounted clothes, you know where to come.
HER: Cool, thanks.
That was an okay back-and-forth between the man and the woman, but it wasn’t great. That’s because there was no teasing, no flirting, no banter. It was too safe. The kind of conversation you’ve just read is good for when you’ve only just started talking to a woman, but pretty soon you should be dropping in some strong examples of teasing. Here’s the conversation again, this time with some prime examples of teasing thrown in.
HIM: How long have you worked there?
HER: Let me think. About a year I think.
HIM: What’s it like?
HER: It’s good, I like it. Where do you work?
HIM: Wait, do you really like it? Because I swear there was a shifty look in your eye when you said that.
HER: Ha ha! No, I really do like it. It’s cool. So where do you work?
HIM: I’m a powerful manager at a clothing store. I hold all the cards and tell everybody what to do, like, please hang that t-shirt there, please, please! I beg of you! Not really. I work there and I’m supposed to be a manager but I tend to just have fun with my co-workers and goof around.
HER: Cool! I bet you get a good discount there, right?
HIM: You bet. In fact, if you come in I can secretly give you a 40% discount. Just walk up to the desk and give me that shifty glance you’ve got perfected. Then we’ll do the secret handshake. You know it?
HER: Ha ha, no!
HIM: Come on, with your subversive behavior I would have guessed you invented it. I’m kidding. We need to make our own one right now for when you come in. Here…
As you can see, there’s a world of difference between that conversation and the first one you read, the one without any flirting in it. Conversations that contain no flirting cannot transcend the everyday status all other conversations have into the kind of conversation you need to have with the woman: a fun, sexually-charged one. You MUST let her know pretty much towards the start of your conversation that you’re not just some innocent bystander. You shouldn’t ram your flirtatious comments down her throat, but you SHOULD drop in a few examples of teasing to create and maintain a spark in the conversation.