Teasing a woman in the right way is an art form. It’s really no surprise that so many men fail miserably at it when they give it a go. In fact, some guys completely avoid flirting with and teasing a girl because they know that if they mess it up, she will immediately regard him as a failure or, at the very least, someone she doesn’t really want to spend much more time around. You’ve no doubt seen this happen in your lifetime. You may even have experienced it yourself. The man starts to flirt with the woman but he misses the target—his jokes and his attempts at teasing her are transparent and poorly executed. The woman straight away recognizes his heavy-handed attempts at flirting with her and because they’re crude and poorly calibrated, she gives him the ‘That’s nice” smile. She goes along with it. He says, “I bet you say that to all the boys, right?! Am I right?” And she nods and smiles, “Only the naughty ones!” Blah, blah. She knows what’s what.
So, yeah, some guys avoid teasing women just as a way of avoiding the above scenario. Whether you avoid teasing, are bad at it, or just need to sharpen up your ability to effectively tease a woman, it’s worth us going over a few pointers. In fact, let’s look at some great ways to tease a girl in exactly the right way.
#1: The Twinkle Tactic
To use this tease tactic all you need to do is insert it into your conversation with the woman. It doesn’t matter that much WHEN you insert it—you should just focus on saying what you say convincingly, with a slight air of busting her metaphorical balls. For example:
HER: “I go out probably three times a month, usually to clubs.”
YOU: “Really? So you’re a party girl, huh? I bet you get pretty crazy and have a wild time sometimes.”
HER (laughing): “No, no. I have a good time with my friends, but nothing too crazy.”
Now you insert the Twinkle Tactic.
YOU: “Hmm, I’m not sure I believe you. When you said that I saw a twinkle in your eyes. I swear. Do you wear contact lenses?”
HER (curious and smiling): “No, why?”
YOU: “Because there was a twinkle there. You’re a crazy party chick, I think.”
HER (laughing and smiling): “No way. I’m a good girl.”
Of course.
That’s the twinkle tactic. You doubt something she says and you say “I saw a twinkle in your eyes just then like you know something I don’t…or that you don’t want me to” or something along those lines. It’s pure teasing gold.
#2: The Twitch
This is another tease tactic that can be easily inserted into your conversation with a woman. For example:
YOU: “…it was great. You should have seen him, he was drenched in it. The only part of him that wasn’t coated white was his red face. Embarrassing as hell, but he loves telling people that story. For some reason he isn’t embarrassed NOW.”
HER: “Ha ha, that’s crazy. I would have hated that…so embarrassing. Thankfully I’ve never had that kind of bad luck really, not in front of so many people, anyway.”
YOU look at her with a sort of sideways, dubious look: “Are you sure? You just did a sort of facial twitch.
HER: “What? No way!”
YOU: “No, no. Not like that. It was really small, like you’re repressing a deep, dark secret or something.”
HER (giggling and smiling): “No, not at all! I didn’t twitch!”
YOU (busting her lady-balls): “Yeah, you did. I was right here watching you. It was when you said not in front of SO MANY people. Did you have a private embarrassment? Or perhaps an embarrassment involving your priva….actually, let’s not go there. New subject!”
HER: “Hey, no! A new subject, sure, but I didn’t have any kind of embarrassment that I need to hide. You’re just being mean!”
As you’ve seen, both of these tactics can easily be inserted into your conversations, pretty much at any point. All you need to do is misinterpret something she says or wait for a point at which she could conceivably be hiding something or be embarrassed about something (although she clearly isn’t).
Try them—they’re good.