Unfortunately, there’s a lot of deception in the world of the ‘pick up artist’. A lot of bullshitting and trickery is what I mean. Outright lies even. It’s a shame, a real shame. The trouble is, it’s very difficult for a guy who’s totally new to the game to instantly adopt all of the traits and characteristics a man needs to attract the highest percentage of women possible WITHOUT using pre-written material for a while. Openers, for example, are almost always canned material. It’s plug and play. “Who lies more, men or women?” That’s not too bad. It’s canned but it’s not a lie. “My friend found a box full of photos of her boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend” is a lie. It’s not story-telling, it’s lying. And any man who disputes that fact is lying to himself, as well as the women he meets. But I don’t want this to sound like a rant, because it really isn’t. I’ll be amongst the first people to tell you that canned material is some of the best stuff you can use, because it’s canned for a reason: it’s good, it’s pre-approved and tested. So why the negative intro? Well, this post is all about something called the Admission Approach which is a way of having a conversation with a woman that at its heart is honest and open. Sure, it can start with a canned opener, but it ends up being completely frank and unashamedly about the guy liking the girl and wanting to talk to her. You’ll see what I mean in a minute. The reason this approach is so good isn’t just because it’s ethically sound (let’s not get into ethics though) it’s also because of the psychology of it. Here is the breakdown of what the Admission Approach is.
Step 1: The man approaches the woman (by the way, this approach is especially effective when used for approaching women who are alone).
Step 2: The man uses an opener of any kind.
Step 3: The man talks to the woman, hears her opinion, asks her a few things, tells her a short story, etc. They talk.
Step 4: The man flirts with the woman and/or teases her. He does it in such a way as to encourage her to flirt back with him.
Step 5: Once the man knows that the woman is definitely flirting with him back and that there is a spark between them, he transitions from the stage he’s currently in with her (talking about random stuff) into telling her that the main reason he approached her and asked her the question he did was because he saw her and thought she looked cool and wanted to talk to her. He of course says this in a very casual way.
The ‘Admission’ part of this approach is when the guy says why he started a conversation with the girl—because he thought she looked cool. That is the key part because it follows straight on from the guy and the girl flirting (which signals to the guy that the girl finds him attractive). So, you combine the girl finding him attractive with the girl finding out for sure that he finds HER attractive and what have you got? A recipe for dating success.
You might be wondering why a guy couldn’t walk up to a girl and say, “I thought I’d come and say hi because you look cool.” The answer is, he can if he wanted to, but it wouldn’t nearly be as likely to go well as the way the approach is structured in the Admission Approach. The Admission Approach works like a charm because the conversation starts on an easy conversational level (the guy asking the girl a question about something), then it moves onto them talking a little bit and the guy flirting with the girl, then the girl flirts back, THEN the hard part of moving into “I like you, you like me, let’s make something happen” territory is taken care of using the admission.
Try it out—it’s very effective and, once you get to the admission part, very honest!