If you’ve been in more than one nightclub in your life, then you’ll know that seeing a woman by herself in one is a very rare thing. Even finding a guy who is without any friends is tricky. After all, why would somebody go to a nightclub alone? They wouldn’t. It’d be boring and depressing. So, women tend to gang together and so do men. That means that if you’re going to approach a woman to talk to her, you’re going to have to contend with the people she’s with—and so you should, they are her friends. You don’t come first until she considers you first. However, this shouldn’t always, or ever, seem like a big problem to you. In fact, with the right knowledge, talking to a woman and one of her female friends can be much better than talking to her alone, as far as attracting her is concerned.
The main reason talking to two girls who are good friends is such a good idea is that you can play off the fact that they know each other. You can give your attention to both of them and have them fight over it—providing you do a good job. Also, people tend to enjoy talking more when there are more people listening to them. One girl talking to you would probably have a little bit more fun if one of her friends is listening or also a part of the conversation. This isn’t always the case, but more often than not it seems to be how things pan out in nightclubs when the drinks are flowing and the music is blaring. So, what kind of fun can you have with two girls who are friends?
- The Test
YOU: “So are you good friends or GREAT friends?” It doesn’t matter what they say. “Okay, well let’s see. I’m going to ask you both a question and you should answer at exactly the same time, when I say GO! Okay? Ready? Here is the question. Would you rather be stuck in an elevator alone or with your friend who’s here with you now? Don’t look at each other! When I say GO, you both say friend or alone. Go!” Have some fun with it—make the test whatever you like. Do they display the same facial expressions? Are the lines on their palms similar? You get the idea.
Using some kind of fun test you can get them excited and really animated, which is just the kind of emotional state you want them to be in (in a good way, not a manipulative way).
- The Questions
Right in front of one friend, you can ask the other one a question about her. For example, “Okay, okay. You both seem fun and lively, but I swear YOU (pointing at more animated one of the two of them) are much livelier. Is she the really lively one of your friendship group?” If the one you’re talking about butts in before the other answers the question, you can say “See! You can’t let your friend get a word in edgeways. Be quiet for a second. Just close your eyes and count to 10….thousand.” Again, play around. Calibrate how flirty your question and comments are to how much progress you’ve so far made with one or both of the girls.
In essence, the trick to talking to two girls successfully is bouncing stuff off both of them—metaphorically. Don’t let one of them get bored, or she might pull the other one away. Keep the topics changing fairly regularly and if one of the girls falls out of the conversation while the other is telling a long story, you can interrupt and tease her by saying something like, “Wait, she looks like she’s about to fall asleep. Have you heard this story a thousand times? I’m loving it.” Mix things up and keep them on their feet. Tease one by telling the other something—but DON’T do it too much or they’ll see through what you’re doing. They’ll only ‘compete’ for you if they think you’re being natural and not outcome-dependant.