You’ve had a great conversation with a girl so far.
You’ve laughed and joked, flirted and generally had fun.
So, does that mean you should go in for the kiss?
Is she ready for that?
Will she freak out or will she love it?
How the hell am I supposed to know when and how to kiss her?
This is a just a small selection of the questions that buzz around a guy’s mind when considering the problem of initiating a first kiss with a girl.
It’s sort of understandable, I suppose. Kissing a girl is a big move for most men and takes a lot of guts to carry out.
But honestly speaking, most fellas make more out of it than is necessary or warranted. They see more of an obstacle than is really there.
You’re now going to learn a few simple facts and rules that will together make kissing girls much, much easier. There are two parts to getting it right every time. First you need to know when a girl is ready to be kissed by you.
Possessing this skill will clearly give you a massive advantage when dealing with the whole “first kiss” thing.
• Women will signal their sexual interest in you before you kiss them by touching and making physical contact with you every now and then. Pay attention to how and with what frequency girls touch you. They might casually brush your hand with theirs, tap you on the thigh to get your attention, or touch the outside of your upper arm while talking to you. When you notice these moments of contact, take them as they’re meant: as signs the girl feels physically comfortable with you and likes your company.
• Look for other signs a girl is attracted to you too. Is she playing with her hair? Smiling at everything you say?
• Unless you’re in a loud club, on the dance floor and unable to hear each other, you’re always going to need to talk to a girl for a while before she’s ready and willing to kiss you. The club kiss is the exception to the rule because some people in some clubs behave differently to other people in other places. Forget about kissing girls without first having a conversation with them. 95% of the time you’re going to need a good deal of verbal interaction before you can kiss her.
• Trust your gut instinct. If you feel like the girl is having a good time with you and you’ve been interacting with each other for a while (60 minutes and over is usually a pretty accurate benchmark), then seriously think about kissing her. Use the rules that follow to do it.
Here’s to make the first kiss easy.
• When you go in for the first kiss, you MUST do it confidently and spontaneously. Firstly, because women find confidence and spontaneity attractive. And secondly, because if you show any hesitancy or doubt about kissing her being right, she will too. If, however, you make it seem like the smallest thing in the world, she’s likely to think of it in the same way.
• Most of the time you can’t go from talking about mundane things like the weather and work to suddenly leaping in and kissing the girl you’re with. You need to already have flirted with each other using your body language AND your topics of conversation and comments. Don’t be crude and talk directly about sex though, unless she brings it up first. Instead, tiptoe around hot topics to create a strong sense of sexual tension.
• If you simply cannot seem to find a way from talking to a girl to kissing her, use a verbal bridge. That means overtly stating what you want to do. That’s right: you actually bring up the topic of you kissing each other. Don’t be afraid to do it. Once again, women appreciate and find your ability to be outright and spontaneous attractive. They find it a relief, because most men are so unsure of themselves it can take forever to get things rolling.
When it comes to initiating the first kiss with a girl, just remember the golden rule:
Make it seem like nothing and that’s how she’ll see it. Have faith in the rapport and sexual chemistry you’ve so far established with her. And be overt and blatant about the idea of kissing each other if going in unannounced isn’t your style.
If you’re upbeat, unembarrassed and confident about the whole thing, she’ll be bowled over and only too happy to kiss you again and again and again.