Great conversations do not take place in vacuum. You cannot prepare for it by simply listing down topics you want to discuss with a girl. But neither does this mean you don’t have to do any planning. Preparing for it in advance will increase your odds at having a great conversation with a woman that you like.
In order to have a great conversation with a woman, you need to find out clues about her personality and interests that will lead you to identify what topics you can talk about. Here are some tips to help you dig up those details:
1. Check out her profile at social networking sites like Facebook. Does she like to take quizzes? Or maybe she likes to participate in virtual games. Read her bio to find out how she views herself and check out her photos to find out clues about her personality. Use the applications available on these sites to interact with her.
2. Be friends with her friends. This will not only get you information about your girl, but more importantly, this will help you form good allies in keeping the conversation favorable. If birds of a feather flock together, then the sort of things that her friends find interesting she’s likely to find interesting, too.
3. Ask her what she does for fun. Say you’re talking to her and want to keep the conversation going. Asking her this question will give you an idea of her hobbies and interests. If you share the same interest, great. You can share tips and your knowledge of that activity. However, if you’re not particularly knowledgeable about the activity she mentions or if you don’t know anything about it, you can still get a great conversation out of it by asking her to describe it to you – the how, when, where, and why of it.
4. Talk about your interests and see how she reacts. Do you like a certain TV show or band? Are you passionate about eradicating poverty or world peace? Talk about it and see how she reacts. A conversation after all is a two-way street. You like to get know her and at the same time, she would also like to find out more on what kind of guy you are. If you talk about something that you really care about, your passion for it makes it infectious and may even inspire her to take up your cause.
5. Bring your friend or friends to join in the conversation at some point. It’s easier to keep a conversation alive when there’s someone else who can relieve you of the pressure to keep it going. Plan it so that you can introduce one of your friends at some point in your conversation. That way, there’s another contributor who can enrich your conversation. Just make sure you clue your friend in on your intention to bring him in.