Approaching women is scary, especially if you’re going in blind to what women really find attractive. If you’re one of those men who don’t approach women because you haven’t got a clue where to start, here’s a step by step guide to building your confidence and seducing women successfully.
Step 1. Mental preparation.
Before going into any battle, you must first win the war raging within your own mind. This is the first and possibly the biggest hurdle you need to get over.
What’s stopping you from approaching women? List down the reasons for your apprehension. Once listed down, go through each item on the list and evaluate each one rationally. How likely are they to happen? And if they do, how will that really affect you?
Write down all of your thoughts and review them everyday. The more take in your rational arguments against your apprehensions, the better you will be at defeating your fears.
Step 2. Making a plan.
Based on your evaluation on what’s likely to happen and how you see yourself reacting, draft a plan of action. Identify the venue where you are most comfortable approaching a woman. Make sure you know this venue well and are comfortable socializing in it.
Next, prepare what you’re going to say. How will you walk up to the girl? What opening strategy will you employ? What topics do you want to bring up for the conversation? Initially you may want to keep it short and sweet. As you become more confident in approaching women, try holding a conversation for a longer period of time. Very important — what’s your exit strategy? How will you close the conversation?
Step 3. Test it out.
Next you will want to test it out and to familiarize yourself with the process of choosing a girl, walking up to her, talking to her and ending the conversation. At the start, you may want to choose a girl you’re comfortable with – someone you see as within your league or maybe even a bit below you. And then, as you become better at it, you can try approaching a girl you find really attractive. You can even try approaching women in various venues. The point is to slowly expand your comfort zone.
You will also want to do this often. Try to approach a girl once every 3 days. And then, slowly work it up until you’re meeting a girl everyday. At first, keep your intentions friendly. You just want to get the hang of approaching women and talking to them. When you’re ready, approach women with the intention of getting their numbers or setting up an activity or a date with them.
Step 4. Constantly improve on your technique
As you pace yourself and expand your comfort zone, you should constantly improve your technique. The more women you meet, the more you’ll recognize patterns of interaction. Before long, you will even learn how to classify women into loose categories. This is extremely advantageous to you because you’ll be able to plan a suitable strategy just by observing the girl you want to attract.
Seducing women is a skill that you can learn. And like any skill, it takes time to become an expert at it. If you can find a mentor to help you out, you can improve your learning curve dramatically. The important thing though is to believe in yourself that you can do it and to start today.