When we see an attractive woman, we want her to like us back. Our natural tendency is to go out of our way to make a great impression, going to great lengths to make sure she likes us back.
But did you know that the best way to attract women is really to treat them no differently from how we treat other people? By making ourselves and our attention scarce, we force women to work for our attention.
If you want to make attractive women work for your attention, here are some moves you can pull when you approach her:
1. Once you make her acquaintance, still continue to interact with other people.
Don’t make the mistake of giving her all of your attention. Continue interacting with other people – both men and women. This is another way of treating her no differently from everybody else. This will even make you more attractive in her eyes.
When she sees you having fun with other people, it will put the pressure on her to come up with something interesting to offer you because she thinks that she’s competing with everybody else for your attention. To her, you’ll seem like someone who is well-liked and well-regarded, someone confident and quite at ease mingling with other people.
2. Don’t agree with everything she says.
When meeting someone for the first time, especially if that someone is a pretty woman, we don’t want to appear disagreeable. What happens is we agree to every statement she utters, even if we really don’t.
But this doesn’t do us any good for 3 reasons: First, it shows the woman that we have no mind of our own. We have no opinion whatsoever, and so we agree to whatever she says. Second, it becomes obvious that we’re trying to win her favor. We want her to accept us, to think well of us, that’s why we dare not challenge her. Third, it tells the woman that we don’t have enough self-confidence to give an opinion because we don’t want to give a “wrong” opinion and reap rejection.
By disagreeing with her, you refute all of these, which I’m sure you will agree are not very attractive qualities at all for a man. You must remember who you are in this relationship – you are the dominant male. A word of caution though – don’t overdo it. You’re not trying to be rude here. You’re just being honest. Maintain a friendly attitude even while you disagree.
3. Don’t appear too interested in what she has to say
When we’re interested in what someone is saying, we tend to lean our bodies toward the speaker, we establish eye contact, and we nod a lot.
This is not what you want to be doing. Instead, you should not be afraid to break eye contact, to be a bit more laid back and relaxed. By doing this, you’re telling her that you do not care that much about how she thinks of you. This kind of confidence is something women find very attractive in a man.
Again, remember not to overdo. Don’t purposefully ignore her when she’s talking. You’re still paying close attention to what she’s saying, you’re just not letting it show too much.
This kind of “aloof” behavior of treating attractive women like everybody else is a characteristic behavior of an alpha male. Women find alpha males sexually attractive because they are perceived as leaders that other men look up to and women vie for. Thus, they tend to exhibit dominant behavior – not because they want to lord it over everybody else, but simply because they know no other way to be than high status.