When you set off to meet girls, selecting the right location is important. This is because the location can either help you sell yourself or work against you. The primary consideration shouldn’t always be the number of women you can potentially meet, but rather, how you are likely to be perceived when you make your approach given the setting you are in.
Take for example clubs. While there will definitely be a lot of single ladies in clubs, you have to bear in mind that women are conditioned to think that men in clubs are the types who hit on women.
Before you make your approach, you have already been pre-judged as someone who’s only interested in picking up women. Before even uttering your first word, you already have a barrier that you need to overcome. This is what makes meeting interesting women in clubs more difficult than it should be.
The best places to meet girls are generally places where women do not expect to be hit on. These are places where “sleazy men” do not hang out in. But they’re not so random that you’ll be perceived as a complete stranger. You want to have some way of relating to the girls you’re meeting, so the location you choose should provide you with a lot of options. There are plenty of possible settings. To narrow it down, here are some locations for you to consider:
1. Weddings – Social gatherings, especially weddings are a great place to meet women. And it also makes it easier to start a conversation – just simply ask her how she is related to the wedding party! Never underestimate the power of mutual acquaintances. They can give you an edge by helping you appear to be someone who is familiar, who is “safe” to date. And do not underestimate, too, the romantic halo cast by the general mood of a wedding.
2. Company Symposiums, Trainings or Meetings – Before you do this, make sure that the girl you are approaching isn’t someone you work with closely. This is to avoid any complications if in case the relationship doesn’t work out. Work is a great way to meet women, because having a job generally makes you more attractive to women. The more prestigious your work, the more attractive you are. And within your professional circle, how well you are faring is generally well-known. Given this setting, it will be easier for you to establish your “alpha-ness” or your dominance when approaching women.
3. Hobby Clubs – When you have a common hobby or interest, it will be easier for you to strike up a conversation and to appear sincere – because you really enjoy what you’re doing. When you’re in a hobby club, the environment is less toxic and more relaxed because hobbies are activities you engage in at your leisure. This is a great place to meet like minded women who are open to meeting new people.
4. Gym – The gym is a great place to socialize. In fact, having someone to talk to while exercising is a fun way to make time go faster and to keep yourself motivated in working out (Hint: Propose to become gym buddies and call each other up to help each other stay “compliant” to your fitness routine. This gives you a legitimate pretext to swapping numbers with her). We all know how flattery and giving compliments can soften people up and are actually great openers. The gym provides the perfect setting for using this approach. Next time you hit the gym, why not plant yourself on the treadmill beside a hot girl you dig?
5. Schools, Campuses, Classes – These are not just places where serious studying happens, but are hotbeds for social interaction as well. So the next time you feel a little social drought when it comes to meeting girls, sign up for a class (acting class, dance class, pottery class, writing class) and meet new faces.
Just remember that when it comes to meeting women, there are many great places to meet girls and they’re usually in places where you might not expect to meet them. So keep your eyes peeled!