Good looks is important when attracting girls. But even good looks can only get you so far. In reality, there are plenty more traits women admire in men that are more important than good looks. Money helps, but that’s not what I’m talking about either.
These two – money and good looks – are usually the root of shyness in most guys. They think that they are not rich enough or handsome enough to date gorgeous women. Popular media seems to support this opinion, and that’s why a lot of us are misled into thinking that unless you have Greek handsome features and Trump fortune, supermodels are just out of your league.
But then, look at the people around you – you see gorgeous girls dating men who are handsome and not so handsome, guys who drive Audis and Jaguars and the middle class guys who take the subway. What’s the common denominator that makes these men so successful with women regardless of their actual wealth and looks?
In this article, I’ll share with you the secret to getting sexy, smart and popular girls to like you. Here are the 3 secret ways guys can attract girls using traits that all women find sexy and irresistible in men.
1. Confidence
If there’s one secret that will have a drastic effect on your dating life, it’s this: It’s not the money or the good looks that make rich and handsome guys attractive to women, but rather it’s the attitude, the air of certainty that they exude that makes them irresistible to women.
Why is this secret so powerful? Once you realize it’s all about confidence, then you’ll know exactly that what you need to build on is your attitude. You need to believe in your ability to attract women, to enjoy yourself when you’re with attractive women, to focus on the fact that women need your acknowledgement and approval more than you need theirs.
Confidence is a very potent weapon that guys can use in attracting girls. But how do you show confidence if you’re not that confident? Like anything else, it takes practice. You have to fake it till you make it. You have to ignore and bury the apprehension until they’re truly gone.
Be careful not to overdo it though – what women want is confidence, not arrogance.
2. Eye Contact
Establishing eye contact is a sign of confidence. It’s also a way to communicate attitude, desire and emotion non-verbally. Once mastered, it’s a very effective tool for flattering women, teasing them, flirting, showing your dominance, establishing your sincerity and credibility and more.
Here are some eye contact techniques you can use and what they mean:
a. Intent gaze from a distance – looking at a woman intently, and not looking away even when she sees you can be very sexy. It tells the woman that you desire her and that you are confident that you will prevail.
b. Keeping eye contact during a conversation – this tells the woman that you are interested in what she’s saying and that you are listening to her. It is important to have this so that you will be perceived as honest and sincere.
c. Breaking eye contact – done right, breaking eye contact during a conversation can be a sign of confidence and dominance. It tells the woman that you are not afraid of offending her and in fact, she should be working even harder in impressing you so that you can reward her with your attention.
3. Social Skills
One way of establishing dominance to let her see that you are dominant in most of your other social relationships. If she sees that you’re comfortable, well-liked and even admired by peers or even people she considers her “social superiors”, then she’s likely to want to impress you.
This is also why in the early stages of getting to know a girl, you don’t want to just hang out with her the entire time that you are together. That will make it seem like you are clingy and desperate for her affection – which is a real turn off.
Instead, what you want to do is spend about 40% of your time talking to other people or introducing other people into your conversation with your girl. Go ahead and talk to other men and women – yes, even the gorgeous ones. Just remember to keep those conversations light and pleasant – absolutely no flirting with another girl.