The only way to meet attractive girls is to actually go out and talk to them. This may sound easy, but for a lot of men, it is nearly impossible to rack up enough confidence to approach a woman he thinks is really hot. Just look around you. How many average Joe’s do you see hanging out with supermodels?
And yet for some men, talking and getting the interest of gorgeous women seem to come naturally. These are your players. They may not be the most good looking, or the richest man in the room, but they possess a certain something, an x-factor if you will, that seems to act like a magnet and attract beautiful women to them effortlessly.
So what’s the secret of these players that allows them to overcome the shyness that paralyzes the average man? This is what this article “How: Overcome Shyness Around Women” will reveal to you.
The first secret is that it all starts in the mind. How we perceive ourselves and our surroundings influences how we act around other people. That’s how powerful belief systems can be. The truth is every man has the potential to be a confident ladies’ man – even the balding, fat guy sitting at the back row. If we believe ourselves to be handsome and charming and to be great around women, then it’s very likely that we will be more confident around them.
If you want to build a positive image of yourself and your charm, you can start by verbalizing it. Often, the more we say it, the more we believe it.
Next, create positive interactions with women to prove to show yourself that you are indeed someone women will find attractive. You can choose to start small. Start by making eye contact and sharing warm smiles with women that you run into. Next, you probably could offer to open doors or carry heavy objects for women or maybe offer a seat. You may not know it, but these acts of chivalry are things women find flattering. You’ll surely receive warm smiles and a blushing thanks as a reward for your efforts.
Once you see that you really are charming and your really are someone women find attractive, you’ll be more confident around women.
The second thing is to pay attention to how we present ourselves to the world. This is another thing that affects how we view ourselves and how we are perceived by women. Whether we like it or not, we are judged by our appearance – maybe not consciously, but we cannot deny that it influences the first impressions people make of us. We all know that women decide they’re interested in us or not in the first few seconds of meeting us, so you can bet that a lot of that decision happens unconsciously.
What does our appearance tell women unconsciously? Well, for one, it says a lot about our health. If we are attracted to mates who can give our offspring the best chance of survival, then it makes sense that women will want the fittest and healthiest among the available males.
Another thing that our appearances communicate is our social structure. Again, in line with the survival of the fittest theory, the man who has a better chance of survival is one to whom a lot of resources is available, the acknowledged social leader. This is the alpha male.
So be sure to pay attention to how you look. Like I mentioned earlier, you don’t have to be a male supermodel to pull this off. It’s primarily about observing proper hygiene, wearing clothes that fit well and that show a bit of your personality.
The last secret that I want to share with you in this article has to do with your personality. We all enjoy being around people who love life – people who are interested in something (which may just be one thing or a lot of things) and pursue this interest passionately. And if you want to be successful around women, then this is something you need to cultivate in yourself.
A lot of things happen when you are passionate about something. For one, it distinguishes you from other men who are vying for the attention of gorgeous women. You are not just a pretty face. You are someone who cares about something.
Another thing that it does is it gives you something that you can talk about and share that will come across as sincere (and not just something you put on for show to make women fall for you). This could also be something she’ll look to you for. You’re an expert at something. And in the world of that something, you are an alpha male as a result of your passionate interest.
This third secret is a bit harder to master than the first two, because it’s something that’s very hard to fabricate. What you need to do is discover what it is you love – what it is you are passionate about. And in order to do this, you need to broaden your horizon, step out of your comfort zone, and explore the world around you. The journey promises to be a rewarding one, so I hope you elect to take it.