Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

The only way to meet attractive girls is to actually go out and talk to them. This may sound easy, but for a lot of men, it is nearly impossible to rack up enough confidence to approach a woman he thinks is really hot. Just look around you. How many average Joe’s do you see hanging out with supermodels?

And yet for some men, talking and getting the interest of gorgeous women seem to come naturally. These are your players. They may not be the most good looking, or the richest man in the room, but they possess a certain something, an x-factor if you will, that seems to act like a magnet and attract beautiful women to them effortlessly.

So what’s the secret of these players that allows them to overcome the shyness that paralyzes the average man? This is what this article “How: Overcome Shyness Around Women” will reveal to you.

The first secret is that it all starts in the mind. How we perceive ourselves and our surroundings influences how we act around other people. That’s how powerful belief systems can be. The truth is every man has the potential to be a confident ladies’ man - even the balding, fat guy sitting at the back row. If we believe ourselves to be handsome and charming and to be great around women, then it’s very likely that we will be more confident around them.

If you want to build a positive image of yourself and your charm, you can start by verbalizing it. Often, the more we say it, the more we believe it.

Next, create positive interactions with women to prove to show yourself that you are indeed someone women will find attractive.  You can choose to start small. Start by making eye contact and sharing warm smiles with women that you run into. Next, you probably could offer to open doors or carry heavy objects for women or maybe offer a seat. You may not know it, but these acts of chivalry are things women find flattering. You’ll surely receive warm smiles and a blushing thanks as a reward for your efforts.

Once you see that you really are charming and your really are someone women find attractive, you’ll be more confident around women.

The second thing is to pay attention to how we present ourselves to the world. This is another thing that affects how we view ourselves and how we are perceived by women. Whether we like it or not, we are judged by our appearance - maybe not consciously, but we cannot deny that it influences the first impressions people make of us. We all know that women decide they’re interested in us or not in the first few seconds of meeting us, so you can bet that a lot of that decision happens unconsciously.

What does our appearance tell women unconsciously? Well, for one, it says a lot about our health. If we are attracted to mates who can give our offspring the best chance of survival, then it makes sense that women will want the fittest and healthiest among the available males.

Another thing that our appearances communicate is our social structure. Again, in line with the survival of the fittest theory, the man who has a better chance of survival is one to whom a lot of resources is available, the acknowledged social leader. This is the alpha male.

So be sure to pay attention to how you look.  Like I mentioned earlier, you don’t have to be a male supermodel to pull this off. It’s primarily about observing proper hygiene, wearing clothes that fit well and that show a bit of your personality.

The last secret that I want to share with you in this article has to do with your personality. We all enjoy being around people who love life - people who are interested in something (which may just be one thing or a lot of things) and pursue this interest passionately. And if you want to be successful around women, then this is something you need to cultivate in yourself.

A lot of things happen when you are passionate about something. For one, it distinguishes you from other men who are vying for the attention of gorgeous women. You are not just a pretty face. You are someone who cares about something.

Another thing that it does is it gives you something that you can talk about and share that will come across as sincere (and not just something you put on for show to make women fall for you). This could also be something she’ll look to you for. You’re an expert at something. And in the world of that something, you are an alpha male as a result of your passionate interest.

This third secret is a bit harder to master than the first two, because it’s something that’s very hard to fabricate. What you need to do is discover what it is you love - what it is you are passionate about. And in order to do this, you need to broaden your horizon, step out of your comfort zone, and explore the world around you. The journey promises to be a rewarding one, so I hope you elect to take it.

The New Year is generally a time for making resolutions. If you’re ready to head in a direction that will guarantee you more girls, then listen up. Here are 5 SURE and EASY resolutions you should keep to make yourself attractive to girls!

1. Get your hair styled and your nails cleaned.

It may seem superficial to start off the year worrying about your looks. But if you are out to get girls to notice you, then there is nothing more important than making sure you look hot. Whether we like it or not, our appearance is the first thing that women notice about us. If we look clean and put together, we’d look like somebody most women want to date - and that pushes our social value higher.

Getting your hair styled by a top stylist (who knows what he’s doing) can be pricey. What you can do is have your hair styled by a senior stylist once and then go to a junior stylist for your regular maintenance cut. Even if your cut now is ok, getting it styled anew can help you stay current.

Now, when you go and get your hair styled, be sure to also have your nails cleaned. There is nothing that will turn women off than long and dirty fingernails and toenails. This year, make it habit to have these done once a month. That will make sure you’re ready to meet hot women all year long.

2. Practice good hygiene.

Not only will this benefit your appearance, but it will also help you stay healthy. I’m not talking about being obsessive about keeping clean - which in itself can turn off a lot of women. I’m talking about using deodorants and mouth wash and taking a shower before meeting someone.

These basic hygiene habits can affect your confidence a lot. I mean, if you don’t have to worry about B.O. and bad breath, wouldn’t that help you approach women more readily? This year, be sure to pay more attention to your oral and overall body hygiene.

3. If you have any skin problems, DEAL WITH IT LIKE A MAN!

Ignoring that skin problem will not solve it. And the worse part is, the longer you ignore it, the worse it will get. You know what I’m talking about - acne, dandruff, that itchy rash that never seems to go away. All of these things affect your confidence level. And we all know that women perceive bad skin as signs of bad hygiene and low social status.

This year, make it your priority to rid yourself of these confidence zappers. Just one visit to a dermatologist is all it takes to find out how to get rid of your skin problems once and for all.

4. Employ sincere flattery.

If you haven’t done so before, then you better start being generous with compliments especially around women. Avoid the obviously patronizing ones. Instead give sincere compliments on things women like being complimented on, and by this I mean things that will show them you are paying attention to them.

Telling them they look awesome is standard. Take this up a notch by noticing something new on them and tell them how great it looks on them - for example a new pair of earrings, or a new way of fixing their hair. To get them really talking, say something like “I don’t know what it is, but you look sort of different today… prettier, more confident. Did you make any changes recently?” You’d be surprised how women will naturally open up to this line.

5. Socialize More.

This year, make it a point to go out more often and to try new places to hang out in. It’s great to have a regular place you and your buds go to, but in order to meet a wide variety of interesting girls, it pays to be more adventurous in your choice of venue.

You don’t have to limit yourself to bars or to parties. You can attend gallery exhibits, watch a concert or a play, sign up for classes. Not only will these give you a wider female audience to unleash your charm on, but you also widen your social interests, which will make you smarter in conversations and a more interesting guy overall.

Make 2010 your year to be attractive to girls! Just apply these tips and you can look forward to a happier and brighter new year!

Here’s an article we got permission from Tiffany at http://www.guygetsgirl.com to give you.

Enjoy!

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Hi Tiff here.

I received this question this morning.

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“Hey Tiff,
Dane here and I have always wanted to know how to look so
irresistable to the opposite sex?

It has been in my mind for a long time and I am dying to know the answer.

If you don’t mind could you give me steps that I can follow everyday to look
wondefully sexy?
Thanks a million.

Dane M”

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See, in the pickup community, we usually teach to ignore how we LOOK
because a lot of guys wanting to learn this stuff, don’t look great…

They aren’t naturally good looking.

So we make their personality stand out and that attracts women all on its own.

But what if you want to do the best for yourself and how you look?

Well, here’s 8 steps.

>>> 1. Get a slight tan. Not orange and not too deep.

It’s a health indicator to women and is a built in attraction trigger from days
when men would hunt - they’d be in the open and they’d get a tan. A guy with
pasty, pale skin would be what, a guy that stayed in a cave all day?!? Not
attractive.

A GOOD spray tan will do.

>>> 2. Get your teeth whitened.

Again, this is all down to looking healthy and being more attractive. Yellow
teeth indicates poor hygiene (not always true but in the opposite sexes mind
it does.).

>>> 3. Start working out.

If you don’t already, start working out. Women cannot help but be attracted to
fit and healthy men. A lot of women are turned off by HUGE muscles but
EVERY woman I know prefers a toned man. Lose any excess fat you have.
And work on being toned if you aren’t already. A great site for guys to lose
weight and build muscle quickly is perfectbodyplan.com - it’s fast and effective.

>>> 4. Walk and stand with upright posture.

Don’t puff your chest out to look like some wannabe hard guy. But imagine
you’re like a puppet on a string. Relax your shoulders. Stand up straight and
tall like you’re being held up by an imaginary string from the top of your head.
Straight backs are more attractive than bent over postures. Again, it’s a health
indicator and it’s built into women to search for the best potential father of their
offspring - even if they aren’t looking for kids right now.

>>> 5. Spend money on clothes and ALWAYS look your best.

I’m not talking about ALWAYS wearing a suit. Or ALWAYS wearing jeans.
You should have different outfits for different occasions. But you should NEVER
leave the house without being well styled. If you usually buy $50 jeans.
Buy a $200 pair. They last years if you choose right and they’ll fit better,
make you feel better and the girls will notice.

>>> 6. Be well groomed.

Go get a decent haircut. Step out of your comfort zone. Go to a decent hair
stylist and ask what the most popular haircut is right now. Get it done.
And watch women’s reactions to you.

If you’re going bald. SHAVE IT ALL OFF.

Don’t try to hide the fact you’re going bald or receding. It’s only a problem if
you make it a problem - women SMELL weakness. If you’re conscious of having
no hair, we won’t be attracted. Wear your bald head PROUDLY. It turns on
some women.

>>> 7. Good, clean shoes.

You’ve probably read it a million times but it’s TRUE. Women look FIRST at your
shoes. And they really DO notice. Get nice shoes. Keep them clean. Replace
when worn. It won’t BED you a woman, but it could be preventing you from
bedding one.

Don’t believe me? Ask a woman you know

>>> 8. KILL acne, spots and pimples with Benzoyl Peroxide.

Seriously guys, if you have acne or spots (and I know guys well into their
thirties that still suffer with acne). Get some Benzoyl Peroxide based cream.
That stuff works like NOTHING ELSE. My ex had bad acne and Bacne (acne on
his back) and after a few weeks of using Benzoyl Peroxide… It was GONE!

Forever!

I hope these tips help you.

Tiff XXX
GuyGetsGirl.com

Good looks is important when attracting girls. But even good looks can only get you so far. In reality, there are plenty more traits women admire in men that are more important than good looks. Money helps, but that’s not what I’m talking about either.

These two - money and good looks – are usually the root of shyness in most guys.  They think that they are not rich enough or handsome enough to date gorgeous women. Popular media seems to support this opinion, and that’s why a lot of us are misled into thinking that unless you have Greek handsome features and Trump fortune, supermodels are just out of your league.

But then, look at the people around you – you see gorgeous girls dating men who are handsome and not so handsome, guys who drive Audis and Jaguars and the middle class guys who take the subway. What’s the common denominator that makes these men so successful with women regardless of their actual wealth and looks?

In this article, I’ll share with you the secret to getting sexy, smart and popular girls to like you. Here are the 3 secret ways guys can attract girls using traits that all women find sexy and irresistible in men.

1.       Confidence

 

If there’s one secret that will have a drastic effect on your dating life, it’s this: It’s not the money or the good looks that make rich and handsome guys attractive to women, but rather it’s the attitude, the air of certainty that they exude that makes them irresistible to women.

 

Why is this secret so powerful? Once you realize it’s all about confidence, then you’ll know exactly that what you need to build on is your attitude. You need to believe in your ability to attract women, to enjoy yourself when you’re with attractive women, to focus on the fact that women need your acknowledgement and approval more than you need theirs.

 

Confidence is a very potent weapon that guys can use in attracting girls. But how do you show confidence if you’re not that confident? Like anything else, it takes practice. You have to fake it till you make it. You have to ignore and bury the apprehension until they’re truly gone.

 

Be careful not to overdo it though – what women want is confidence, not arrogance.

 

2.       Eye Contact

Establishing eye contact is a sign of confidence. It’s also a way to communicate attitude, desire and emotion non-verbally. Once mastered, it’s a very effective tool for flattering women, teasing them, flirting, showing your dominance, establishing your sincerity and credibility and more.

Here are some eye contact techniques you can use and what they mean:

a.       Intent gaze from a distance – looking at a woman intently, and not looking away even when she sees you can be very sexy. It tells the woman that you desire her and that you are confident that you will prevail.

b.      Keeping eye contact during a conversation – this tells the woman that you are interested in what she’s saying and that you are listening to her. It is important to have this so that you will be perceived as honest and sincere.

c.       Breaking eye contact – done right, breaking eye contact during a conversation can be a sign of confidence and dominance.  It tells the woman that you are not afraid of offending her and in fact, she should be working even harder in impressing you so that you can reward her with your attention.

 

3.       Social Skills

One way of establishing dominance to let her see that you are dominant in most of your other social relationships.  If she sees that you’re comfortable, well-liked and even admired by peers or even people she considers her “social superiors”, then she’s likely to want to impress you.

This is also why in the early stages of getting to know a girl, you don’t want to just hang out with her the entire time that you are together. That will make it seem like you are clingy and desperate for her affection – which is a real turn off.

Instead, what you want to do is spend about 40% of your time talking to other people or introducing other people into your conversation with your girl. Go ahead and talk to other men and women – yes, even the gorgeous ones. Just remember to keep those conversations light and pleasant – absolutely no flirting with another girl.

It’s no secret that men fantasize about dating very sexy women. If you go to any bachelor’s room, the evidence is overwhelming. Desktop background, screen savers, video downloads, the music he listens to, the movie he watches - evidence of is obsession with gorgeous women is everywhere. And yet, if we were to describe the ratio of men who are obsessed with gorgeous women to men who actually date them, it would be a grossly inverse relationship - and this is not due to a lack of pretty women.

It’s practically a fact: average guys don’t end up dating girls who they consider way too beautiful. Guys rate women and for a majority of men, women who are 9s and 10s are too out of their league to even try for. Average guys “settle” for average girls. To understand why, here are 8 reasons why men tend to avoid dating women who are very attractive:

1.       Fear of rejection. Girls who are very attractive are thought to be hunk magnets. Since they’re approached so often by so many guys, it’s much easier for them to reject guys. Hence, it’s the chances of a guy getting rejected within seconds of approaching a girl is doubled, even tripled when the girl is super attractive.

2.       Fear of being exposed. Since the very pretty girls are approached so often by men who want to date them, they become quite familiar with the various styles and techniques that men use to attract women. This familiarity means she’s probably familiar with the moves an average guy might spring on her, rendering his chances of success close to nil.

3.       Excessive shyness. Some men are just shy around women. And the prettier the women, or the more of them there are to interact with, the more his shyness intensifies.

4.       Low self esteem. Like attracts like. Following this logic, very pretty women deserve and probably expect to be with a very hunky guy. Average guys view themselves as average, which means not good looking enough, not rich enough, not tall enough, not good enough for a super attractive female.

5.       Procrastination. The odds of an average guy dating a foxy lady seem like an overwhelming 10 million to 1. With odds like that, why even bother trying?

6.       Clueless on what to do and say. Very pretty ladies also appear to be very sophisticated and adept at playing the seduction game. What can you say or do to impress someone who probably has seen and heard every tactic known to man?

7.       Performance anxiety. Well, these average guys are not used to talking to hot, sexy ladies. This makes them anxious when interacting with them.

8.       Fear of embarrassment. Nobody wants to make a fool of themselves, especially so in front of someone they find very attractive. Sometimes, the threat of embarrassment is so real that it cowers men from considering other, more likely possibilities.

Did you know that women will know within mere seconds of meeting you if they want to date you or not? This only goes to show that this choice is not based on a rational decision making process but is instead based on intuition and stereotypical profiles of men. This makes it really crucial for you to understand how you can make a great impression every time you go out and meet women.

To be able to do this, we must first understand what factors go into how women intuitively decide whether you are date material or not. These factors have their roots in women’s biological make up and how we as a specie determine what a good sexual match is.

For many centuries, women have always defined a good sexual match as one who has strong genes and the ability and willingness to protect her and her offspring. The manifestations of these are confidence, leadership ability, social status. The man who manifests all these traits is known as the alpha male. He does not necessarily have to be good looking or rich as long as his status is one where other men look up to and aspire to be like him and other women vie for his attention.

If you want to fain women’s favorable opinion upon meeting them, you need to transform yourself into today’s equivalent of an alpha male. How you act around other people - both men and women  - will form the basis of women’s evaluation whether or not you are alpha male. So, what kind of behavior are we referring to?

The first criterion is confidence. You need to be confident in your speech and in your actions. You need to be comfortable in your own skin so that you will not feel the need to sacrifice a bit of yourself or your beliefs just to please other people. You can ignore the pressure to comply with what other people think or fear other people’s opinion because of your strong self-belief.

The second criterion is leadership ability. In times past, alpha males are often the leaders of their tribes as a result of them earning the esteem and trust of the members of the tribe. Fast forward to modern times, alpha males often take the lead in various social situations. They continue to be decision makers because they continue be regarded highly. If you want to become an alpha male, you need to who women that you can step up and take the lead.

The third criterion is high social status. Social mores dictate a code of behavior between a leader and his followers. In exchange for the trust and the admiration of his followers, a leader is expected to always do what’s best for his followers. He makes his decisions with care and a considerable amount of thought because he knows that his status as a leader is contingent on his ability to make decisions that are good for his group. This relationship requires loyalty and responsibility on the part of the leader, which satisfy women’s intuitive need not just to find sexual partners with strong genes, but also one who will be loyal to her when the time comes when she has to rely on him to protect her and her offspring.

If you are not alpha male, you can become one over time. As you may have realized, being alpha male is not just adopting a set regimen of behaviors. Instead, it involves first and foremost, a change in outlook. With proper guidance and sufficient knowledge, you can become an alpha male and use more advanced seduction techniques to create attraction within seconds of meeting women.