Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

The New Year is generally a time for making resolutions. If you’re ready to head in a direction that will guarantee you more girls, then listen up. Here are 5 SURE and EASY resolutions you should keep to make yourself attractive to girls!

1. Get your hair styled and your nails cleaned.

It may seem superficial to start off the year worrying about your looks. But if you are out to get girls to notice you, then there is nothing more important than making sure you look hot. Whether we like it or not, our appearance is the first thing that women notice about us. If we look clean and put together, we’d look like somebody most women want to date - and that pushes our social value higher.

Getting your hair styled by a top stylist (who knows what he’s doing) can be pricey. What you can do is have your hair styled by a senior stylist once and then go to a junior stylist for your regular maintenance cut. Even if your cut now is ok, getting it styled anew can help you stay current.

Now, when you go and get your hair styled, be sure to also have your nails cleaned. There is nothing that will turn women off than long and dirty fingernails and toenails. This year, make it habit to have these done once a month. That will make sure you’re ready to meet hot women all year long.

2. Practice good hygiene.

Not only will this benefit your appearance, but it will also help you stay healthy. I’m not talking about being obsessive about keeping clean - which in itself can turn off a lot of women. I’m talking about using deodorants and mouth wash and taking a shower before meeting someone.

These basic hygiene habits can affect your confidence a lot. I mean, if you don’t have to worry about B.O. and bad breath, wouldn’t that help you approach women more readily? This year, be sure to pay more attention to your oral and overall body hygiene.

3. If you have any skin problems, DEAL WITH IT LIKE A MAN!

Ignoring that skin problem will not solve it. And the worse part is, the longer you ignore it, the worse it will get. You know what I’m talking about - acne, dandruff, that itchy rash that never seems to go away. All of these things affect your confidence level. And we all know that women perceive bad skin as signs of bad hygiene and low social status.

This year, make it your priority to rid yourself of these confidence zappers. Just one visit to a dermatologist is all it takes to find out how to get rid of your skin problems once and for all.

4. Employ sincere flattery.

If you haven’t done so before, then you better start being generous with compliments especially around women. Avoid the obviously patronizing ones. Instead give sincere compliments on things women like being complimented on, and by this I mean things that will show them you are paying attention to them.

Telling them they look awesome is standard. Take this up a notch by noticing something new on them and tell them how great it looks on them - for example a new pair of earrings, or a new way of fixing their hair. To get them really talking, say something like “I don’t know what it is, but you look sort of different today… prettier, more confident. Did you make any changes recently?” You’d be surprised how women will naturally open up to this line.

5. Socialize More.

This year, make it a point to go out more often and to try new places to hang out in. It’s great to have a regular place you and your buds go to, but in order to meet a wide variety of interesting girls, it pays to be more adventurous in your choice of venue.

You don’t have to limit yourself to bars or to parties. You can attend gallery exhibits, watch a concert or a play, sign up for classes. Not only will these give you a wider female audience to unleash your charm on, but you also widen your social interests, which will make you smarter in conversations and a more interesting guy overall.

Make 2010 your year to be attractive to girls! Just apply these tips and you can look forward to a happier and brighter new year!

We’re seeing a global explosion of online dating sites and more importantly WOMEN using social network sites like Twitter, Facebook and MySpace. Women use this stuff ALL the time… And it seems females being on Facebook (or the latest social networking site) is as essential as having a cell phone… Or even a pair of shoes.

Women LOVE Facebook and Twitter and all the HOTTEST women are on there.

But did you know there are ‘copy and paste’ systems that make you STAND OUT from other men and DEMAND attention from women when using these sites?

Well there are.

And they are ultra powerful.

The latest system we’ve tried is Derek Lamont’s Online Game - Internet attraction system.

In his system which is FREE for a limited time, Derek and his team of “online pickup” specialists tell you how to meet, attract, and seduce beautiful girls from these social-networking websites.

Does it work?

Hell yes!

It’s tried and tested it and it uses many of the principles we teach here at Black Belt Seduction - only in a different format which makes them HUGELY effective when used online.

Derek lays all the info out in a easy to learn and easy to use system that REALLY does get results.

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If you’re not into doing ‘cold approaches’ in the street or in a club, this really is for you.

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TOO simple doesn’t it? Sounds too hypey?

Try it.

And you’ll see it really does become THIS easy to get dates with beautiful women in your area.

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Before you make a move and transform a platonic relationship into a sexual relationship, you would typically want to make sure she is already sexually attracted to you. There’s no point rushing in now and risking your friendship and your chance to date a girl that you like if she’s not yet ready to make the transition.

To check if your friend is ready to become your girlfriend, watch out for these signs that she’s falling for you:

1.  She calls you and talks to you on the phone for hours. This says a lot about the level of comfort that you have achieved with each other. If she’s calling you more and more often and you find yourself chatting with her till the wee hours of the morning, you’ve got a real connection going on between the two of you. Definitely a good sign that she sees you as more than just a friend.

2.  She gets jealous when you talk about other girls or when she sees you approaching other girls. She won’t come right out and admit it. After all, she knows that she has no right to get jealous. But she will let you know how annoyed she is by ignoring you for a while or avoiding you when she sees you with another girl.

3.  She suddenly becomes very sensitive. Perhaps you are used to treating her like one of the boys and you like to tease her a lot. Suddenly, she becomes unusually sensitive to your comments and wonders if you are half serious when you tease her, especially if you tease her about her appearance.

4. She starts dressing up more femininely. If she begins to pay more attention to how she looks, she might be trying to remind you that she is a girl.

5.  She never misses a chance to spend time with you, especially if it’s just the two of you. If she’s almost always free to accompany you, if she changes her plans or moves her schedule around just to be able to hang out with you, that’s a definite sign she likes you.

6. She mentions you a lot to her friends. Girls cannot help but talk about a guy they like or quote them on something they said. So if you learn from her friends that she’s quoting you a lot or mentions your name a lot, that’s your green light to make your move.

7. She expects you to do things that boyfriends normally do, like bring her home or hanging out just the two of you. If you normally do these things for her, the tell tale sign to watch out for is how she will react if you miss any of these tasks. If she’s cool about it, then she’s a good friend. But if she suddenly turns ice cold, there’s definitely something going on.

8.  She tries to get good with your family. When girls like a guy, they want to impress not just the guy, but his family as well. She’ll be especially nice to his siblings or to his mom and act really warmly around his family to make sure they have a good opinion of her.

9.  She asks you to give a remark on her appearance or on how well she’s doing. When friends ask each other for an opinion, they really want to know your honest opinion. But when a girl likes a guy, she asks for an opinion and expects to get an affirmation. So when she starts phrasing her questions where you have no choice but to agree with her or to praise her, then that means your approval is becoming more and more valuable to her.

10.  She touches you more often. A good indication that a girl is falling for you is if she touches you more frequently or stands really close to you more often. If you notice this, then you should definitely ask her to be your girlfriend.

It’s no secret that men fantasize about dating very sexy women. If you go to any bachelor’s room, the evidence is overwhelming. Desktop background, screen savers, video downloads, the music he listens to, the movie he watches - evidence of is obsession with gorgeous women is everywhere. And yet, if we were to describe the ratio of men who are obsessed with gorgeous women to men who actually date them, it would be a grossly inverse relationship - and this is not due to a lack of pretty women.

It’s practically a fact: average guys don’t end up dating girls who they consider way too beautiful. Guys rate women and for a majority of men, women who are 9s and 10s are too out of their league to even try for. Average guys “settle” for average girls. To understand why, here are 8 reasons why men tend to avoid dating women who are very attractive:

1.       Fear of rejection. Girls who are very attractive are thought to be hunk magnets. Since they’re approached so often by so many guys, it’s much easier for them to reject guys. Hence, it’s the chances of a guy getting rejected within seconds of approaching a girl is doubled, even tripled when the girl is super attractive.

2.       Fear of being exposed. Since the very pretty girls are approached so often by men who want to date them, they become quite familiar with the various styles and techniques that men use to attract women. This familiarity means she’s probably familiar with the moves an average guy might spring on her, rendering his chances of success close to nil.

3.       Excessive shyness. Some men are just shy around women. And the prettier the women, or the more of them there are to interact with, the more his shyness intensifies.

4.       Low self esteem. Like attracts like. Following this logic, very pretty women deserve and probably expect to be with a very hunky guy. Average guys view themselves as average, which means not good looking enough, not rich enough, not tall enough, not good enough for a super attractive female.

5.       Procrastination. The odds of an average guy dating a foxy lady seem like an overwhelming 10 million to 1. With odds like that, why even bother trying?

6.       Clueless on what to do and say. Very pretty ladies also appear to be very sophisticated and adept at playing the seduction game. What can you say or do to impress someone who probably has seen and heard every tactic known to man?

7.       Performance anxiety. Well, these average guys are not used to talking to hot, sexy ladies. This makes them anxious when interacting with them.

8.       Fear of embarrassment. Nobody wants to make a fool of themselves, especially so in front of someone they find very attractive. Sometimes, the threat of embarrassment is so real that it cowers men from considering other, more likely possibilities.

What If I tell you there are 5 easy changes you can start making today that’s guaranteed to double your dating frequency with gorgeous women? That’s right.

We all know that to double our frequency, there may be some things about our personality or our behavior that we have to modify. Some of these changes are long term - such as developing confident body language. But there are also small changes that you can start doing today that’s guaranteed to give you great results.

Here are my 5 favorite tips - easy tips - that you can start doing today and see immediate results:

1. Recruit a wingman into your team.

A wingman is a friend who is also your sidekick in attracting women. Bringing in a wingman can help you tremendously in your interactions with attractive women. When you go in and approach a girl, especially if she’s with her friends, you gain an important ally in keeping the conversation or interaction lively and fun. You also have someone who’ll make you look good in front of the girl you’re after, bringing up your social value in effect.

2. Ask for opinions in your openers.

If you haven’t been doing this, you’ve been missing out on a lot of fun interaction with women. Openers are your basic lines when you approach a group of women for the first time, popularly called pick up lines.

A great way to open is with opinion questions. Questions like “What can men do that women cannot?” or “Men are in fact better cooks than women. That’s why most chefs are men. Do you agree?” The topic has to be somewhat controversial yet light and interesting. Remember, you want a fun conversation that will get everybody in a great mood, and not a debate.

The great thing about these openers is that they’re random enough that you can use it with any group of girls and at the same time, they’re easy to tweak to suit your situation.

3. Test your perfume before using it on the field.

No matter how good you look or how engaging you are, if you smell bad, you’re done for. No one’s going to notice anything else. So first off, if you’re not using perfume, start using one today. Next, It’s not enough to wear just any perfume - you need to test it first. Perfume is oil-based and once it’s sprayed on your skin, it reacts and changes based on the chemicals it finds there, like our sweat. So what smells good in the bottle might become foul once it sets in on our skin. So it’s best to always test - test before you purchase, and definitely test before you use.

4. Use Reverse Psychology.

We’re used to thinking that if we want to impress somebody, we have to behave pleasantly around them. There’s nothing wrong with that statement. It’s just that when trying to impress a cute girl you’ve just met, nothing can be more detrimental to your success than modeling pleasant behavior. If you haven’t notice, women always fall for the bad guys - the men with attitude. This is because women liked being challenged. They like taking on the feminine role in a relationship - which means you need to take on the dominant, masculine role. By all means, be nice and friendly, but don’t be afraid to disagree and to air contrary opinions either.

5. Relax and enjoy the ride!

Don’t be too uptight. Seduction is supposed to be a game and games are meant to be fun. It you view it too seriously, the tension will show in your movements, making you appear less confident around women. Whereas if you have fun at it, women will be drawn to you because women, like everybody else, enjoy being around fun people.

You’ve just met a woman that you really like and you want to go out on a date with her. The first date can be tricky because you are putting yourself out there for her to judge if you are boyfriend material or not. Here’s what you want: a date that is fun, memorable, exciting and one that will leave her anticipating the next one.

You will definitely benefit from some careful planning when setting it up. To help you make sure she says “yes” and has a great time with you, here are some tips to get you started:

1.       Make it a group date.

A lot of girls aren’t sure if they want to go on a date with just the two of you after just making your acquaintance. If you force it, she might just shoot down your request. To take the pressure off of her, ask her to join you and your friends for a pre-planned activity instead. Make sure it’s a mixed crowd of men and women. If you hit it off really well in the middle of the group date, you can always break away from the group and spend some time alone.

2.       Choose an activity you’re good at.

Inviting a woman to join you or your group in an activity is effectively inviting her to come into your territory. Since you would be the only person she knows in that new environment, she will naturally have to rely on you to guide her. This is a great way to show your competence and to build trust. Choose an activity that you’re really, really good at to get the maximum benefit.

3.       Select an activity with a lot of physical interaction.

Sexual energy is transmitted best through touch. Save the movie and the concert dates for some other time.  Instead choose activities where both of you have to interact with each other, such as dancing or ice skating. Not sure how much touching is appropriate? Let her take the lead. If she responds positively and reciprocates, then you’re safe to progress.

4.       Flirt back. If you see the signs that she’s having a great time with you and likes you back, don’t hesitate to flirt with her. After all, you want her to think of you as a potential boyfriend and not just a guy friend. Tease her, but take care not to offend. A light banter will also work well to build a rapport between the two of you.

5.       Read her cues and know when to kiss. This is very important because it says a lot about your ability to “listen” to her cues and to take charge of the moment. Miss it and you run the risk of her thinking that you’re not that into her. When you find the right moment, go with your instincts and give her a kiss.