Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

You’ve just met a woman that you really like and you want to go out on a date with her. The first date can be tricky because you are putting yourself out there for her to judge if you are boyfriend material or not. Here’s what you want: a date that is fun, memorable, exciting and one that will leave her anticipating the next one.

You will definitely benefit from some careful planning when setting it up. To help you make sure she says “yes” and has a great time with you, here are some tips to get you started:

1.       Make it a group date.

A lot of girls aren’t sure if they want to go on a date with just the two of you after just making your acquaintance. If you force it, she might just shoot down your request. To take the pressure off of her, ask her to join you and your friends for a pre-planned activity instead. Make sure it’s a mixed crowd of men and women. If you hit it off really well in the middle of the group date, you can always break away from the group and spend some time alone.

2.       Choose an activity you’re good at.

Inviting a woman to join you or your group in an activity is effectively inviting her to come into your territory. Since you would be the only person she knows in that new environment, she will naturally have to rely on you to guide her. This is a great way to show your competence and to build trust. Choose an activity that you’re really, really good at to get the maximum benefit.

3.       Select an activity with a lot of physical interaction.

Sexual energy is transmitted best through touch. Save the movie and the concert dates for some other time.  Instead choose activities where both of you have to interact with each other, such as dancing or ice skating. Not sure how much touching is appropriate? Let her take the lead. If she responds positively and reciprocates, then you’re safe to progress.

4.       Flirt back. If you see the signs that she’s having a great time with you and likes you back, don’t hesitate to flirt with her. After all, you want her to think of you as a potential boyfriend and not just a guy friend. Tease her, but take care not to offend. A light banter will also work well to build a rapport between the two of you.

5.       Read her cues and know when to kiss. This is very important because it says a lot about your ability to “listen” to her cues and to take charge of the moment. Miss it and you run the risk of her thinking that you’re not that into her. When you find the right moment, go with your instincts and give her a kiss.