Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

If you don’t happen to have a wingman or wingwoman to help support and improve your pick-up game, you can instead use a third-party to unwittingly boost your appeal in the target female’s mind. The benefits of roping in a third party to unwittingly heighten and demonstrate your dominance, social value and attractiveness are multi-faceted.

Let’s look at a couple of examples of how to use a third party before analyzing the advantages doing so offers you.

• The Helpful Vendor. A good person to use as a third party is someone you know will be around and available whenever you need to cleverly rope them into your psychological game. One profession that suits this requirement perfectly is the vendor. For example, you’ve introduced yourself to a girl who was sitting alone reading a book in a bar by using your preferred method of opening and have been talking for 20 minutes or so. You suggest getting a drink at bar and she agrees. At the bar, you get back to flirtatiously debating something you were talking about earlier and you decide to ask the barman for his opinion. Calling the barman over, you half jokingly grill him on the topic at hand, with a slight smile on your face. The girl watches on, smiling too, interrupting you to get her side of the story across to the barman. It’s a fun, light-hearted exchange.

• The Bystander. Same situation again, you’ve been chatting to a girl for 20 minutes and things are going well, the conversation is fun and relaxed. She’s displayed strong, open body language and eye contact is strong and flirty. Again, you’ve been teasingly arguing with her over something minor, you’re both using it to play with each other and generally spice up the conversation. There’s a couple sitting behind you and you turn around, wait for them to look up to see what you want, and then you ask them what they think: “Could I ask you for your opinion on something, guys? See, I think Pepsi’s the way forward, but my friend here, Betty (not her name and you know it), thinks Coke’s a million times better. Could I ask you what you think? Maybe you can help convince her…or me!”

Okay, let’s look at the benefits using a third party, as in the examples above, offers you:

1. Asking a complete stranger for their opinion, while in the company of the girl you’ve just met, allows you to give a supreme display of effortless confidence and courage. Your social value is immediately boosted in her mind. Also, the fact that you can clearly introduce yourself to anyone and get talking with them demonstrates that you didn’t just make an exception for her, which stops her ego from being unduly inflated while at the same time reinforces your status as a social creature with high personal worth – both traits being necessary components when creating attraction in the minds of women.

2. When you bring a third party into the mix, a psychological comparison is made in the mind of the female. She sees the stranger (third party) and she sees you – her subliminal conclusion is that she has more of a connection with you than the person that’s just been introduced to her and her immediate reality (through you asking them for their opinion) and –thanks to the law of contrast – you therefore appear more likeable and attractive than the third party. You can further increase this effect by choosing carefully who you use as your wingman or wingwoman. For example, you’re much better off using another hot girl as a third party (say, an 8 out of 10) than you are a guy (who’s also about an 8 in the looks department. Also, by using a female as a third party, you’re able to incorporate deflection theory into the mix.

3. Lastly, when you use a third party as an unwitting wingman or wingwoman, you’re given the opportunity to be indirectly flirty with the girl you’ve just met. A quick example of this was used in the second example, when you called her Betty, which certainly wasn’t her real name. When you make a flirty joke like this while talking to a third party, its power and effectiveness is much higher than if you said it one-on-one to the girl.