Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

The internet is crazy, to be honest. It’s full of weird stuff and weird people. But it is also a place where real, normal people go to talk to each other and form new social connections. This makes it a very good training ground and playing field for a man such as you, who wants to hone and improve his skills at attracting and seducing women. Let’s take a look at how you can flirt with a woman online in the most devastatingly effective way possible.

First, the common mistakes men make when they talk to women online:

• The biggest one is when a guy straightaway puts the woman on a pedestal and allows her to take total control of the situation. For example, he’ll go straight in with some intense questions, like what she looks like. Is this a good way of showing the woman that you are a high value attractive guy? No, because it makes it completely obvious that you only want one thing from her: sexually motivated attention.

• Next, the guy tries to play it too cool. His responses will be exaggerations of what he’d actually say in real life. He’ll be much more non-committal and nonchalant. He’s really just trying to appear as cool as possible—and failing.

• He will try to be something he’s not, because he thinks that because he and the girl aren’t face-to-face, he can get away with more bullshit.

• He won’t flirt effectively.

So, how should talking to women online, and especially flirting with them, be done?

• First you need to remember that the rules which apply to talking to women well in real life also apply when you’re online.

• If you don’t already know, you’ll need to make sure the person you’re speaking to is actually female and the right age. You can always pull out the old skool a/s/l? But usually these days you’ll already know they’re okay because they’ll have pics, links to their Facebook page, etc.

• Start with a solid opener. When you’re online, you can be a bit more familiar than you would be offline. That’s because you aren’t face-to-face; there’s distance between you and her. So, don’t even say hi, just start right away with a good question. As soon as you press ‘send’, write your next message, which should be the following: “Hi by the way.  Random question I know…what do you think though?” That is a much better approach to starting the conversation than beginning by saying, “Can I ask you question?” Just ask, THEN say hi. Women can’t resist responding, because usually online conversations don’t start in such a fun, unusual way.

• Once you’re happy that she has responded in quite a detailed way (so that she’s obviously thought about the question) you can say thanks and then ask her ONE question. Choose it wisely. After she answers, say “cool” or something appropriate, then go silent. Do not type anything. This is the test. If she types something to you now, then you’ve got her hooked and you can carry on talking. If she doesn’t type anything, then she isn’t hooked and you might as well move on—something isn’t right with her.

•  When the conversation has hooked, talk about normal stuff for 10 minutes or so, like where you both live, if you work and what you work as, etc., but be careful not to request too much information from and always ensure that everything is equal: you shouldn’t asking all the questions.

• Drop in smilies at the right times and don’t overuse ‘lol’. You want her to know when you’re genuinely amused and when you’re not.

That’s a solid start. Most men don’t get past even the opening stage of the online conversation.