Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

If you are shy around women, you’re not alone. Majority of men experience shyness to some degree when they see an attractive woman. Usually, the more attractive the woman is, or the more women there are, the more intensely this shyness tends to be.

Sometimes, we experience shyness to a point where it interferes with our ability to meet and talk to women. This is where it really becomes a problem and a source of frustration. It turns into a vicious cycle wherein every event in which we forgo approaching a woman because of our shyness just makes it harder for us to overcome and eliminate excessive shyness. In the short term, this results in loneliness and contributes to a low self-belief. In the long term, it affects other facets of our life and results to a lower quality of life overall.

Making the decision to overcome shyness is probably one of the easiest to make. After all, what man would not want to be confident around women? However, actually overcoming shyness needs a lot of practice and a lot of courage. If you’ve made a personal decision to stop shyness now, I salute you. To help you along, here are 5 guaranteed ways to help you eliminate excessive shyness.

1.     Put yourself in women’s shoes. It’s no secret that women want to attract men. A majority of women still believe that it’s the men who should be doing the approaching and not the other way around. If you approach women, don’t think that you’re an unwanted distraction. Done properly, women welcome being approached by men.
2.     You can meet women and still be honest. In fact, we discourage lying to women. When you are meeting women and starting a conversation with them, you have to put your best foot forward. This means phrasing words positively to make you look attractive and to show off your best qualities. This is not the same as deceiving them or lying to them. You’re merely presenting yourself in a good way by highlighting the best things about you.
3.     Reflect on your goal for wanting to meet women. Are you out to score a date or a phone number? Is that goal putting a lot of pressure on you and in turn, fueling your shyness around women? Let me reveal to you a secret that all men who are comfortable around women know. And that is, when you go out to meet women, your goal isn’t to score anything. Your goal is to have fun and enjoy their company.
4.     Change your look. Sometimes the root of our shyness lies in our lack of confidence in our appearance and how attractive we appear to women. The easy fix here is to look your best. Invest in a new haircut. Grab a great outfit that flatters your build and shows off your personality.  If you are conscious about something, for example, wearing eye glasses, you might want to think about wearing contact lenses. If you think you look attractive to women, it will definitely make you more comfortable and confident interacting with them.
5.     Start with non-threatening women. The only way you can overcome shyness when talking to women is to actually start talking to women. Accumulating a lot of positive interactions with women will diminish the intensity of your shyness until you completely eliminate it. You can start off by talking to non-threatening women first. Next, you can alternate talking to non-threatening women and really attractive girls. Until finally, you can talk to any girl you want.