Answers to the Men’s FAQs on Kissing A Girl – Find out Exactly How You Should Go About It

Posted on July 6, 2009 by Carl Cu

Kissing a girl is a subject matter that’s loaded with a lot of questions. If you haven’t experienced having your attempt thwarted like I had (a lifetime ago), I do not wish you the same discomfort and embarrassment. Similarly uncomfortable is a situation where you missed the moment and you can just feel the girl getting exasperated at your inability to move things forward.

For the benefit of men everywhere, I’ve compiled a list of the top 3 most frequently asked questions about kissing a girl with some clear answers and guidelines. Take heed!

Question #1: How do I know if she’s ready to be kissed?

Listen closely to how she talks. If she’s flirting with you more and more intensely, teasing you more often, she’s definitely getting there.

Observe her body language. If she’s feeling the sexual tension between the two of you, she’ll be making sure you have the opportunity to share a romantic moment. Maybe she’ll move the two of you away from the crowd for some privacy. You’ll also notice she’s touching you more and exposing more of her body to you – such as her long neck or her slender legs.

Finally, It’s a cliché answer, but nevertheless rings true. If she’s ready to be kissed, you’ll feel the sexual tension in your gut. You need to believe in your instincts and take the plunge.

Question #2: How do I transition from conversation to kissing a girl?

Clearly, you cannot move from talking about mundane things like the traffic or the weather and then kissing a girl. The best thing to do when the moment is upon you is to just kiss her spontaneously and deliberately.

The key here is to think of the kiss as the most natural thing that can happen between the two of you. If you feel that way about kissing her, she’ll likely to feel similarly. So remember, you like her and judging from her body language, she thinks you’re hot. A kiss is just the obvious follow up to that.

If you feel an absolute need to verbally communicate your desire to kiss her before doing so, deliver it in a confident way, maintaining eye contact and using a flirty tone.  You may also move in by caressing her face, her nape, or her shoulder while delivering your bridge.

Question #3. How do I know if it was a good kiss?

Ah, the after-kiss question. You’ll know it was a great kiss by reading her facial expression. Some girls are more forward about it and they will pay you a complement for a great kiss. The surest way to tell though is a follow-up kiss. If you got a follow-up kiss after your first kiss, you know you did great.

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Seduction Techniques: How to Meet Women and Create Attraction Within Seconds

Posted on July 2, 2009 by Carl Cu

Did you know that women will know within mere seconds of meeting you if they want to date you or not? This only goes to show that this choice is not based on a rational decision making process but is instead based on intuition and stereotypical profiles of men. This makes it really crucial for you to understand how you can make a great impression every time you go out and meet women.

To be able to do this, we must first understand what factors go into how women intuitively decide whether you are date material or not. These factors have their roots in women’s biological make up and how we as a specie determine what a good sexual match is.

For many centuries, women have always defined a good sexual match as one who has strong genes and the ability and willingness to protect her and her offspring. The manifestations of these are confidence, leadership ability, social status. The man who manifests all these traits is known as the alpha male. He does not necessarily have to be good looking or rich as long as his status is one where other men look up to and aspire to be like him and other women vie for his attention.

If you want to fain women’s favorable opinion upon meeting them, you need to transform yourself into today’s equivalent of an alpha male. How you act around other people – both men and women  – will form the basis of women’s evaluation whether or not you are alpha male. So, what kind of behavior are we referring to?

The first criterion is confidence. You need to be confident in your speech and in your actions. You need to be comfortable in your own skin so that you will not feel the need to sacrifice a bit of yourself or your beliefs just to please other people. You can ignore the pressure to comply with what other people think or fear other people’s opinion because of your strong self-belief.

The second criterion is leadership ability. In times past, alpha males are often the leaders of their tribes as a result of them earning the esteem and trust of the members of the tribe. Fast forward to modern times, alpha males often take the lead in various social situations. They continue to be decision makers because they continue be regarded highly. If you want to become an alpha male, you need to who women that you can step up and take the lead.

The third criterion is high social status. Social mores dictate a code of behavior between a leader and his followers. In exchange for the trust and the admiration of his followers, a leader is expected to always do what’s best for his followers. He makes his decisions with care and a considerable amount of thought because he knows that his status as a leader is contingent on his ability to make decisions that are good for his group. This relationship requires loyalty and responsibility on the part of the leader, which satisfy women’s intuitive need not just to find sexual partners with strong genes, but also one who will be loyal to her when the time comes when she has to rely on him to protect her and her offspring.

If you are not alpha male, you can become one over time. As you may have realized, being alpha male is not just adopting a set regimen of behaviors. Instead, it involves first and foremost, a change in outlook. With proper guidance and sufficient knowledge, you can become an alpha male and use more advanced seduction techniques to create attraction within seconds of meeting women.

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Overcoming Shyness – 5 Ways to Eliminate Excessive Shyness When Talking to Women

Posted on June 28, 2009 by Carl Cu

If you are shy around women, you’re not alone. Majority of men experience shyness to some degree when they see an attractive woman. Usually, the more attractive the woman is, or the more women there are, the more intensely this shyness tends to be.

Sometimes, we experience shyness to a point where it interferes with our ability to meet and talk to women. This is where it really becomes a problem and a source of frustration. It turns into a vicious cycle wherein every event in which we forgo approaching a woman because of our shyness just makes it harder for us to overcome and eliminate excessive shyness. In the short term, this results in loneliness and contributes to a low self-belief. In the long term, it affects other facets of our life and results to a lower quality of life overall.

Making the decision to overcome shyness is probably one of the easiest to make. After all, what man would not want to be confident around women? However, actually overcoming shyness needs a lot of practice and a lot of courage. If you’ve made a personal decision to stop shyness now, I salute you. To help you along, here are 5 guaranteed ways to help you eliminate excessive shyness.

1.     Put yourself in women’s shoes. It’s no secret that women want to attract men. A majority of women still believe that it’s the men who should be doing the approaching and not the other way around. If you approach women, don’t think that you’re an unwanted distraction. Done properly, women welcome being approached by men.
2.     You can meet women and still be honest. In fact, we discourage lying to women. When you are meeting women and starting a conversation with them, you have to put your best foot forward. This means phrasing words positively to make you look attractive and to show off your best qualities. This is not the same as deceiving them or lying to them. You’re merely presenting yourself in a good way by highlighting the best things about you.
3.     Reflect on your goal for wanting to meet women. Are you out to score a date or a phone number? Is that goal putting a lot of pressure on you and in turn, fueling your shyness around women? Let me reveal to you a secret that all men who are comfortable around women know. And that is, when you go out to meet women, your goal isn’t to score anything. Your goal is to have fun and enjoy their company.
4.     Change your look. Sometimes the root of our shyness lies in our lack of confidence in our appearance and how attractive we appear to women. The easy fix here is to look your best. Invest in a new haircut. Grab a great outfit that flatters your build and shows off your personality.  If you are conscious about something, for example, wearing eye glasses, you might want to think about wearing contact lenses. If you think you look attractive to women, it will definitely make you more comfortable and confident interacting with them.
5.     Start with non-threatening women. The only way you can overcome shyness when talking to women is to actually start talking to women. Accumulating a lot of positive interactions with women will diminish the intensity of your shyness until you completely eliminate it. You can start off by talking to non-threatening women first. Next, you can alternate talking to non-threatening women and really attractive girls. Until finally, you can talk to any girl you want.

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What Women Want – Why Nice Guys Finish Last and Why Girls Fall For the Bad Boys

Posted on June 21, 2009 by Carl Cu

You’ve seen it in the movies. The guys on the Harley always have sexy women in leather minis riding tandem. And I bet you’ve seen it happen in real life as well. You see hot chicks dating these two-timing, womanizing losers and wonder “What do these women see in these men?”

Well, if you want to be the guy that hot women date, you’ve got to learn a trick or two from the bad boys. To understand what women find so sexually appealing about them, here are a couple of things you need to know about how women generally view the game of seduction.

  • Women like to be challenged. They don’t want to be placed in a pedestal and treated like china. They want someone who can relate to them as equals. The want men who are sexually secure and who are not afraid to tap the sexual side of women’s personalities.
  • Women crave excitement in their lives. Bad boys are men who live dangerously, take risks and are generally viewed as adventurous sexual partners. That they are reputed to have a lot of affairs is not viewed as a negative. On the contrary, what it tells women is that other women have chosen him, thereby confirming his desirability as a sexual partner.
  • Women relish spontaneity. Nice guys tend to be cautious and conservative. They follow the rules because they care a lot about what other people expect of them – what society expects of them. They are afraid to look silly or foolish and so they are afraid to become spontaneous. That’s the stereotype nice guys need to overcome.
  • Women like to take on the feminine role in a relationship. And for the dynamics of the relationship to work, the man has to exhibit more masculine qualities. Qualities usually associated with being masculine include being assertive and domineering. So if you act too nicely around a girl – paying her lots of attention, showering her with gifts, not daring to “make any mistake” – you are in a way taking on the role of the female in the relationship.
  • Women are addicted to confidence. This is a trait that seems to flourish abundantly in the so-called “bad” boys. Bad boys are cool. Their “I-don’t-care” attitude and body language challenges women to live up to their expectations if she wants their attention. They don’t need validation from other people to confirm their superior status.
  • Men that other women find sexually attractive are irresistible. If males strive to be the alpha male or the so called “leader of the tribe” – the man with the best genes – then women also strive to be the alpha female, the woman other women look up to and envy. One way to achieve this is to be seen in the company of the alpha male, who’s behavior are usually modeled by the bad boys.

The thing about these reasons is they are related biologically to how men and women are programmed to be. What we desire in sexual partners is not always rationally determined. It’s instinctual. But as complex beings, we do not rely on instincts alone. Personally, I think it wouldn’t hurt to learn a thing or two from the bad boys and adapt our seduction styles accordingly.

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How to Attract Women: 3 Tips to Make Women Fall For You

Posted on June 16, 2009 by Carl Cu

When we see an attractive woman, we want her to like us back. Our natural tendency is to go out of our way to make a great impression, going to great lengths to make sure she likes us back.

But did you know that the best way to attract women is really to treat them no differently from how we treat other people? By making ourselves and our attention scarce, we force women to work for our attention.

If you want to make attractive women work for your attention, here are some moves you can pull when you approach her:

1. Once you make her acquaintance, still continue to interact with other people.

Don’t make the mistake of giving her all of your attention. Continue interacting with other people – both men and women. This is another way of treating her no differently from everybody else. This will even make you more attractive in her eyes.

When she sees you having fun with other people, it will put the pressure on her to come up with something interesting to offer you because she thinks that she’s competing with everybody else for your attention. To her, you’ll seem like someone who is well-liked and well-regarded, someone confident and quite at ease mingling with other people.

2. Don’t agree with everything she says.

When meeting someone for the first time, especially if that someone is a pretty woman, we don’t want to appear disagreeable. What happens is we agree to every statement she utters, even if we really don’t.

But this doesn’t do us any good for 3 reasons: First, it shows the woman that we have no mind of our own. We have no opinion whatsoever, and so we agree to whatever she says. Second, it becomes obvious that we’re trying to win her favor. We want her to accept us, to think well of us, that’s why we dare not challenge her. Third, it tells the woman that we don’t have enough self-confidence to give an opinion because we don’t want to give a “wrong” opinion and reap rejection.

By disagreeing with her, you refute all of these, which I’m sure you will agree are not very attractive qualities at all for a man. You must remember who you are in this relationship – you are the dominant male. A word of caution though – don’t overdo it. You’re not trying to be rude here. You’re just being honest. Maintain a friendly attitude even while you disagree.

3. Don’t appear too interested in what she has to say

When we’re interested in what someone is saying, we tend to lean our bodies toward the speaker, we establish eye contact, and we nod a lot.

This is not what you want to be doing. Instead, you should not be afraid to break eye contact, to be a bit more laid back and relaxed. By doing this, you’re telling her that you do not care that much about how she thinks of you. This kind of confidence is something women find very attractive in a man.

Again, remember not to overdo. Don’t purposefully ignore her when she’s talking. You’re still paying close attention to what she’s saying, you’re just not letting it show too much.

This kind of “aloof” behavior of treating attractive women like everybody else is a characteristic behavior of an alpha male. Women find alpha males sexually attractive because they are perceived as leaders that other men look up to and women vie for. Thus, they tend to exhibit dominant behavior – not because they want to lord it over everybody else, but simply because they know no other way to be than high status.


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Double Your Dating Effortlessly: 5 Things You Can do Today to Get More Dates with Gorgeous Women

Posted on June 10, 2009 by Carl Cu

What If I tell you there are 5 easy changes you can start making today that’s guaranteed to double your dating frequency with gorgeous women? That’s right.

We all know that to double our frequency, there may be some things about our personality or our behavior that we have to modify. Some of these changes are long term – such as developing confident body language. But there are also small changes that you can start doing today that’s guaranteed to give you great results.

Here are my 5 favorite tips – easy tips – that you can start doing today and see immediate results:

1. Recruit a wingman into your team.

A wingman is a friend who is also your sidekick in attracting women. Bringing in a wingman can help you tremendously in your interactions with attractive women. When you go in and approach a girl, especially if she’s with her friends, you gain an important ally in keeping the conversation or interaction lively and fun. You also have someone who’ll make you look good in front of the girl you’re after, bringing up your social value in effect.

2. Ask for opinions in your openers.

If you haven’t been doing this, you’ve been missing out on a lot of fun interaction with women. Openers are your basic lines when you approach a group of women for the first time, popularly called pick up lines.

A great way to open is with opinion questions. Questions like “What can men do that women cannot?” or “Men are in fact better cooks than women. That’s why most chefs are men. Do you agree?” The topic has to be somewhat controversial yet light and interesting. Remember, you want a fun conversation that will get everybody in a great mood, and not a debate.

The great thing about these openers is that they’re random enough that you can use it with any group of girls and at the same time, they’re easy to tweak to suit your situation.

3. Test your perfume before using it on the field.

No matter how good you look or how engaging you are, if you smell bad, you’re done for. No one’s going to notice anything else. So first off, if you’re not using perfume, start using one today. Next, It’s not enough to wear just any perfume – you need to test it first. Perfume is oil-based and once it’s sprayed on your skin, it reacts and changes based on the chemicals it finds there, like our sweat. So what smells good in the bottle might become foul once it sets in on our skin. So it’s best to always test – test before you purchase, and definitely test before you use.

4. Use Reverse Psychology.

We’re used to thinking that if we want to impress somebody, we have to behave pleasantly around them. There’s nothing wrong with that statement. It’s just that when trying to impress a cute girl you’ve just met, nothing can be more detrimental to your success than modeling pleasant behavior. If you haven’t notice, women always fall for the bad guys – the men with attitude. This is because women liked being challenged. They like taking on the feminine role in a relationship – which means you need to take on the dominant, masculine role. By all means, be nice and friendly, but don’t be afraid to disagree and to air contrary opinions either.

5. Relax and enjoy the ride!

Don’t be too uptight. Seduction is supposed to be a game and games are meant to be fun. It you view it too seriously, the tension will show in your movements, making you appear less confident around women. Whereas if you have fun at it, women will be drawn to you because women, like everybody else, enjoy being around fun people.

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