Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

Plenty of guys can have really fun conversations with women that contain some good levels of attraction and rapport, but only a small minority can perform a successful ‘close’ at the end of the conversation, by swapping phone numbers with the girl or doing something similar. And even fewer guys can close a conversation without even needing to ask the woman for her number, because she volunteers it herself. But there is a technique for making this happen. It goes like this.

You’ve been talking to a girl for a while and the conversation’s going well. You can tell she likes you because you’ve spotted 3 or more of the signs of interest, like her flicking her hair around or touching you every now and then. You continue talking, waiting for a light-hearted moment to come along in which you both laugh and smile. When one does, straight after you move a little closer to her and say: “Listen. I have to go now to meet some friends. But I’ve had a lot fun getting to know you and think it’d be a shame if we left it here. On that note, I have a question for you. What do you think the best move we could make would be to ensure this isn’t the last time we have a fun conversation?”

Let’s dissect what this type of close consists of and thereby reveal why it works so well. You begin the closer directly after a particularly fun moment in the conversation. This backs up what you say next about how it’s been fun getting to know her. You also mention that you’ve got to go because of friends, which shows you’re a social kind of guy that has other arrangements – which demonstrates your personal value and self-worth. Then you ask what the best step you could both take would be to basically see each other again. And you use the word “we”, which subliminally suggests that you’re already somehow connected to one another. By asking her this question, you hand her control – but in the best possible way. If she likes you and has enjoyed getting to know you too, then she’ll actually suggest one of two things. She’ll either say you should meet up somewhere soon to do something together, or, more likely, she’ll eagerly volunteer to give you her phone number. If, for some reason, she responds with an “I don’t know” or something equally non-committal, then you simply say: “You don’t know? Oh, I guess you’re not as social as I thought! Well, how can we make it so we can talk again?” By this point she’ll definitely have got the message and will more than likely suggest giving you her phone number. Sometimes, though, something else happens. You might not realize it, but you’ve actually made much more of an impact on the girl than you first realised and when you pose your closer question, she’ll suggest something much more forward than handing you her number, like going on a full-blown date or even you accompanying her home. That’s the great thing about letting her come up with the answer to your little “dilemma.”

Try using this closer the next time you find yourself near the end of a good conversation with a woman that contains strong mutual attraction.