Black Belt Seduction Blog: How to pick-up, attract and seduce women

You’ve seen it in the movies. The guys on the Harley always have sexy women in leather minis riding tandem. And I bet you’ve seen it happen in real life as well. You see hot chicks dating these two-timing, womanizing losers and wonder “What do these women see in these men?”

Well, if you want to be the guy that hot women date, you’ve got to learn a trick or two from the bad boys. To understand what women find so sexually appealing about them, here are a couple of things you need to know about how women generally view the game of seduction.

• Women like to be challenged. They don’t want to be placed in a pedestal and treated like china. They want someone who can relate to them as equals. The want men who are sexually secure and who are not afraid to tap the sexual side of women’s personalities.

• Women crave excitement in their lives. Bad boys are men who live dangerously, take risks and are generally viewed as adventurous sexual partners. That they are reputed to have a lot of affairs is not viewed as a negative. On the contrary, what it tells women is that other women have chosen him, thereby confirming his desirability as a sexual partner.

• Women relish spontaneity. Nice guys tend to be cautious and conservative. They follow the rules because they care a lot about what other people expect of them - what society expects of them. They are afraid to look silly or foolish and so they are afraid to become spontaneous. That’s the stereotype nice guys need to overcome.

• Women like to take on the feminine role in a relationship. And for the dynamics of the relationship to work, the man has to exhibit more masculine qualities. Qualities usually associated with being masculine include being assertive and domineering. So if you act too nicely around a girl - paying her lots of attention, showering her with gifts, not daring to “make any mistake” - you are in a way taking on the role of the female in the relationship.

• Women are addicted to confidence. This is a trait that seems to flourish abundantly in the so-called “bad” boys. Bad boys are cool. Their “I-don’t-care” attitude and body language challenges women to live up to their expectations if she wants their attention. They don’t need validation from other people to confirm their superior status.

• Men that other women find sexually attractive are irresistible. If males strive to be the alpha male or the so called “leader of the tribe” - the man with the best genes - then women also strive to be the alpha female, the woman other women look up to and envy. One way to achieve this is to be seen in the company of the alpha male, who’s behavior are usually modeled by the bad boys.

The thing about these reasons is they are related biologically to how men and women are programmed to be. What we desire in sexual partners is not always rationally determined. It’s instinctual. But as complex beings, we do not rely on instincts alone. Personally, I think it wouldn’t hurt to learn a thing or two from the bad boys and adapt our seduction styles accordingly.